Please join us in celebrating Liz's contribution to our lives by sharing your messages,
stories and photos below. Email [email protected]
stories and photos below. Email [email protected]
From Paul Horsfall and family in Hamilton
Dear Lynn
It is with great sadness that we came across Liz's tribute page while on the net. We are shocked and saddened.
We often fail to take time to think of those that helped us so much and yet have moved on from our lives. You welcomed us into your personal lives through work contact sharing Waitangi Day celebrations and including us in your greater family.
Without your support we would not be where we are today - in Hamilton, loving and caring for each other and our children. Thanks be to you.
Love Paul and Janet, Cameron, Hayden and Emma
16th September 2011
It is with great sadness that we came across Liz's tribute page while on the net. We are shocked and saddened.
We often fail to take time to think of those that helped us so much and yet have moved on from our lives. You welcomed us into your personal lives through work contact sharing Waitangi Day celebrations and including us in your greater family.
Without your support we would not be where we are today - in Hamilton, loving and caring for each other and our children. Thanks be to you.
Love Paul and Janet, Cameron, Hayden and Emma
16th September 2011
From Elspeth Campbell in Wellington
I only learned of Liz’s death recently and was very saddened that we have lost a wonderful lady.
Liz was my midwife for my second son Jonty in 1996 and my third child, a much longed for daughter in 1999. Marion McLaughlin had been our first midwife from Domino’s in 1993 for our son Beau and when we found she was no longer practicing she thankfully recommended Liz to us.
Liz gave me confidence as a Mum when I needed it as I had no family support at that time. She was inspiring and practical and made us all feel at ease.
A sad loss too soon,
Elspeth Campbell
Strathmore, Wellington
30th July 2011
Liz was my midwife for my second son Jonty in 1996 and my third child, a much longed for daughter in 1999. Marion McLaughlin had been our first midwife from Domino’s in 1993 for our son Beau and when we found she was no longer practicing she thankfully recommended Liz to us.
Liz gave me confidence as a Mum when I needed it as I had no family support at that time. She was inspiring and practical and made us all feel at ease.
A sad loss too soon,
Elspeth Campbell
Strathmore, Wellington
30th July 2011
From Sue Elton and the Dunford family, Wellington
Liz –
you’re the special one.
May the serenity and comfort you offered our family so warmly way back in 1999/2000 be with you now.
Your gentle intimacy and firm guidance through Roman’s birth was in such stark contrast to my previous (first) birthing experience in London that I knew I was the luckiest woman alive to have your support. Thank you. My GP obviously knew what she was doing in referring me to Domino!
Our hearts go out to you, Lynn, and to the Brunton family. Liz was precious and has touched so many: it was a privilege to have known her.
Fondly remembered.
Sue x
PS What marvellous jumpers J
21st February 2011
May the serenity and comfort you offered our family so warmly way back in 1999/2000 be with you now.
Your gentle intimacy and firm guidance through Roman’s birth was in such stark contrast to my previous (first) birthing experience in London that I knew I was the luckiest woman alive to have your support. Thank you. My GP obviously knew what she was doing in referring me to Domino!
Our hearts go out to you, Lynn, and to the Brunton family. Liz was precious and has touched so many: it was a privilege to have known her.
Fondly remembered.
Sue x
PS What marvellous jumpers J
21st February 2011
Message from Lisa and her son Callum Hannigan
Oh why does God take the best of us too early? What an angel of a
woman Liz Brunton was. She has always held a special place in my heart,
bringing my boy into the world with me when I was a lost single mother
14.5 years ago. She even came around the clock one night to get my
stubborn wee man latched on.
I just heard today she has passed away as we have relocated to Brisbane. Liz you were amazing, you made me feel strong, when I couldve felt quite weak, you were so supportive not just of motherhood but of me and my situation. You know how much I appreciated you. I am very sad to hear you have left our world what a huge loss for us here on earth, Arohanunui and thank you thank you thank you.
My sincere condolences to Lynn and family.
Lisa and her son Callum Hannigan xxx
10th February 2011
I just heard today she has passed away as we have relocated to Brisbane. Liz you were amazing, you made me feel strong, when I couldve felt quite weak, you were so supportive not just of motherhood but of me and my situation. You know how much I appreciated you. I am very sad to hear you have left our world what a huge loss for us here on earth, Arohanunui and thank you thank you thank you.
My sincere condolences to Lynn and family.
Lisa and her son Callum Hannigan xxx
10th February 2011
Message from Tanya Christian, Churton Park
Liz,
I heard the news yesterday, and I shed a tear.
I was so saddened to hear that you had taken ill and passed away.
If I had known I would have liked to have held your hand - just like you did for me when I needed it most, and I would have liked to have been present at your funeral to show you the respect that you so much deserved.
You came into our lives for such a short period of time (first at the birth of Ashley and then again at the birth of Joshua), but you have become etched into our family memories for ever.
If it had not been for your confidence, knowledge and strength I do not believe that Joshua would have been with us today.
I had been in labour for some time and it was becoming apparent that things were not moving along as usual. Liz consulted with the specialist on duty who advised a cervix dilating drip and pushing for another few hours. Liz was aware that Josh was bigger than my first child at birth and was also concerned that he was showing signs of distress. Instead of agreeing with the specialists instructions, Liz insisted on a cacerian intervention immediately. The specialist agreed in the end after some persuasion from Liz. Josh was born (via cacerian) with a deep indentation around the circumference of his head. It had become very apparent that there was no way that Josh could have been born naturally as his head was to big to fit down into my pelvis.
I am so thankful that Liz followed her gut instinct and stood her ground that day. I was appreciative then and I am still appreciative now.
Liz I am so sad that you will not be around if I decide to have number three.
I know that you are no longer in pain and I hope you are getting the retirement that you so much deserve in heaven.
It was an honour to have known you.
Love
Tanya Christian
I heard the news yesterday, and I shed a tear.
I was so saddened to hear that you had taken ill and passed away.
If I had known I would have liked to have held your hand - just like you did for me when I needed it most, and I would have liked to have been present at your funeral to show you the respect that you so much deserved.
You came into our lives for such a short period of time (first at the birth of Ashley and then again at the birth of Joshua), but you have become etched into our family memories for ever.
If it had not been for your confidence, knowledge and strength I do not believe that Joshua would have been with us today.
I had been in labour for some time and it was becoming apparent that things were not moving along as usual. Liz consulted with the specialist on duty who advised a cervix dilating drip and pushing for another few hours. Liz was aware that Josh was bigger than my first child at birth and was also concerned that he was showing signs of distress. Instead of agreeing with the specialists instructions, Liz insisted on a cacerian intervention immediately. The specialist agreed in the end after some persuasion from Liz. Josh was born (via cacerian) with a deep indentation around the circumference of his head. It had become very apparent that there was no way that Josh could have been born naturally as his head was to big to fit down into my pelvis.
I am so thankful that Liz followed her gut instinct and stood her ground that day. I was appreciative then and I am still appreciative now.
Liz I am so sad that you will not be around if I decide to have number three.
I know that you are no longer in pain and I hope you are getting the retirement that you so much deserve in heaven.
It was an honour to have known you.
Love
Tanya Christian
Message from Rosie Crocker in Wellington
I am so, so sad to hear you have died.
You were my midwife for my first child and you were great - I remember
when you took me on when I phoned up desperately hoping that you would
and I was so grateful! I really liked how you gave me all the space I
needed and had such a real sense of humour regarding the decisions my
husband and I made - you made me feel very safe and accepted without
being dominated which is quite a skill!
I think I only came to really appreciate your skill when I had my second child without you as a midwife (you had retired and we had moved!). It was then that I realised that, as the primary maternity health provider you brought boundaries to the situation that I certainly didn't get the second time - you emitted this "you are going to be OK" vibe that carried the whole event forward. It wasn't as though you didn't have your concerns about me (which you only told me about after the birth) it was that you didn't communicate them to me at all - you had them covered - which meant I could put all my energy into birthing rather than being anxious about my or my baby's health.
I remember your talking about how you had a memory from a previous life where you were a healer - you were certainly one in this life and I am very grateful you came into mine.
Rosie Crocker
7th February 2011
I think I only came to really appreciate your skill when I had my second child without you as a midwife (you had retired and we had moved!). It was then that I realised that, as the primary maternity health provider you brought boundaries to the situation that I certainly didn't get the second time - you emitted this "you are going to be OK" vibe that carried the whole event forward. It wasn't as though you didn't have your concerns about me (which you only told me about after the birth) it was that you didn't communicate them to me at all - you had them covered - which meant I could put all my energy into birthing rather than being anxious about my or my baby's health.
I remember your talking about how you had a memory from a previous life where you were a healer - you were certainly one in this life and I am very grateful you came into mine.
Rosie Crocker
7th February 2011
Message from Sue and Kevin Jones, Wellington
Dear Lynn & Liz
The stories about your life Liz, and how you have touched so many people, is truly amazing. I came to know you through your lovely partner Lynn, who boarded with me and my family many years ago. Kevin came to know you through this connection with your sister Jeannette and also through his son Arran and the birth of the tow Ansell-Jones children that you delivered.
We loved your calmness and your humour – gentle, insightful and well worth hearing! I remember at our wedding, everyone wanted to be at the table you and Lynn were – the noise and laughter was the envy of many guests. Great stuff.
Dear Lynn, what a wonderful partner you are. Please accept our thoughts. James and Rebecca are also thinking of you.
With love,
Sue and Kevin.
February 1, 2011
The stories about your life Liz, and how you have touched so many people, is truly amazing. I came to know you through your lovely partner Lynn, who boarded with me and my family many years ago. Kevin came to know you through this connection with your sister Jeannette and also through his son Arran and the birth of the tow Ansell-Jones children that you delivered.
We loved your calmness and your humour – gentle, insightful and well worth hearing! I remember at our wedding, everyone wanted to be at the table you and Lynn were – the noise and laughter was the envy of many guests. Great stuff.
Dear Lynn, what a wonderful partner you are. Please accept our thoughts. James and Rebecca are also thinking of you.
With love,
Sue and Kevin.
February 1, 2011
From Sharon Dewhurst, Wellington
Dear Liz,
So very sad to hear of your passing, although not our primary midwife, you were there supporting and caring in some way for the births of our three children – a true midwife.
Rest in peace lovely lady, may your spirit soar and continue to be an inspiration.
Sharon Dewhurst
So very sad to hear of your passing, although not our primary midwife, you were there supporting and caring in some way for the births of our three children – a true midwife.
Rest in peace lovely lady, may your spirit soar and continue to be an inspiration.
Sharon Dewhurst
From Jocelyn Keith in The Hague, The Netherlands
The Years We Shared
Dear Lynn, Jeanette and all the Brunton family,
I sat down to send cards but of course, they would take days to reach you and we need the comfort now in the days as we all learn to live without Liz. That in itself seems an impossibility. She has always been there when we needed her and now we must all go on without her.
From our very first days together in Nursing Studies at Victoria University,then on to our various commitments to the New Zealand Nurses Association and the National Council of Women of New Zealand, Liz was always the best sounding board I have ever known. She was a wonderful listener and such a wise counsellor.
I wish I could have been with you in St Andrew's.
Just know that you are thought of from afar and that we are all grateful for the years we shared with Liz, the good we saw in her and the love we received from her.
May she rest in peace.
Dear Lynn, Jeanette and all the Brunton family,
I sat down to send cards but of course, they would take days to reach you and we need the comfort now in the days as we all learn to live without Liz. That in itself seems an impossibility. She has always been there when we needed her and now we must all go on without her.
From our very first days together in Nursing Studies at Victoria University,then on to our various commitments to the New Zealand Nurses Association and the National Council of Women of New Zealand, Liz was always the best sounding board I have ever known. She was a wonderful listener and such a wise counsellor.
I wish I could have been with you in St Andrew's.
Just know that you are thought of from afar and that we are all grateful for the years we shared with Liz, the good we saw in her and the love we received from her.
May she rest in peace.
Message from Caroline McGlinchy in Wellington
A huge thank you from the Lesbian Mums
During today's funeral I was increasingly in awe of how amazing Liz was. I already knew her to be interesting, staunch, fun, and incredibly dedicated.
I had an overwhelming dawning today at the huge loss to the lesbian Mum's community. She made it possible for so many woman to bring their babies into the world without explanations or discussions about how they got pregnant or who the father was or "how they might tell the baby".
There were so many of us today sharing stories and the security they felt about having a Midwife who was also a lesbian and the unspoken understanding that went with that.
Whether we chose Liz to be our midwife or not ,when a Lesbian couple found out they were pregnant she was always on the list , we were so lucky here in Wellington to have that option to have a midwife who not only was an amazing woman and Midwife but also understood our relationships!
Liz thank you for your warmth, support and encouragement and all you have done for Lesbian Mums in Wellington.
Lynn my heart goes out to you.
With big love.
Caroline
During today's funeral I was increasingly in awe of how amazing Liz was. I already knew her to be interesting, staunch, fun, and incredibly dedicated.
I had an overwhelming dawning today at the huge loss to the lesbian Mum's community. She made it possible for so many woman to bring their babies into the world without explanations or discussions about how they got pregnant or who the father was or "how they might tell the baby".
There were so many of us today sharing stories and the security they felt about having a Midwife who was also a lesbian and the unspoken understanding that went with that.
Whether we chose Liz to be our midwife or not ,when a Lesbian couple found out they were pregnant she was always on the list , we were so lucky here in Wellington to have that option to have a midwife who not only was an amazing woman and Midwife but also understood our relationships!
Liz thank you for your warmth, support and encouragement and all you have done for Lesbian Mums in Wellington.
Lynn my heart goes out to you.
With big love.
Caroline
Message from Jo Main, midwife
Dear Lynn and Families,
My heartfelt sympathy for your loss. I knew Liz as a Student Midwife in 1972-1973 and on and off over the years since. I remember a gentle, compassionate and fun loving woman and am glad to have had her in my life. As you all make the journey through grief I know the memories you hold of Liz will sustain and cheer you.
Love and special thoughts
Jo Main
My heartfelt sympathy for your loss. I knew Liz as a Student Midwife in 1972-1973 and on and off over the years since. I remember a gentle, compassionate and fun loving woman and am glad to have had her in my life. As you all make the journey through grief I know the memories you hold of Liz will sustain and cheer you.
Love and special thoughts
Jo Main
Message from Merty
Hello Lynn
My heartfelt thoughts are with you and all of the family today especially, as you say your final farewells to dear Libby, thankful that she is now free of all pain and suffering...
Kindest regards
Merty (Michelle's Mum)
My heartfelt thoughts are with you and all of the family today especially, as you say your final farewells to dear Libby, thankful that she is now free of all pain and suffering...
Kindest regards
Merty (Michelle's Mum)
Message from Nicola Keane in Wellington
Dearest Liz
It was with great sadness that I read of Liz's passing in the Press on Tuesday. I had the great privelege of having Liz as my midwife for the birth of my son Harrison who will be five in two weeks time. I remember ringing Midwives in Wellington and getting no no no and then I struck the jackpot, I rung Domino Midwives and was lucky enough to get Liz on the phone. Liz said she would take me on which was fantastic, I felt like I'd won the Lotto as 1) I now had a midwife and 2) it was LIZ BRUNTON, a lady with a huge reputation.
Liz guided me through my pregnancy and all the silly questions that I asked. I remember when the midwife visits came to an end and being so upset that I would no longer have Liz popping in. She always made me feel like I was doing the right thing and gave me confidence. For the past four years I have always thought of Liz on Harrison's birthday and will be doing so again on the 9th of February.
Lynn, Liz used to talk about you on her visits and I particularly remember one time when you had called her and when she got off the phone she said 'oh that was my darling', and from reading the blog it's obvious you are her darling. What a strong couple you were. Amazing. I wish you love and light.
Nicola Keane
Message from The Bowley Family in Christchurch
Dear Lynn
Just want you to know that we are thinking of you and sending all the love we can. We enjoyed meeting Liz and could see that you had something very special with this very special lady.
So very sad that we can’t get to be with you today but will be there in spirit.
Love and God Bless xx
Joy Bowley
Just want you to know that we are thinking of you and sending all the love we can. We enjoyed meeting Liz and could see that you had something very special with this very special lady.
So very sad that we can’t get to be with you today but will be there in spirit.
Love and God Bless xx
Joy Bowley
Message from Elaine Papps in Hawke's Bay
Dear Lynn
I was so very saddened to read in the Dominion Post that Liz had passed away. I have very fond memories of Liz from the days when we were NZNA executive members, and of you, Lynn, from those days teaching at Nelson Polytechnic.
My thoughts and condolences are with you.
With love
Elaine Papps
Hawke’s Bay
I was so very saddened to read in the Dominion Post that Liz had passed away. I have very fond memories of Liz from the days when we were NZNA executive members, and of you, Lynn, from those days teaching at Nelson Polytechnic.
My thoughts and condolences are with you.
With love
Elaine Papps
Hawke’s Bay
Message from The Fletcher Family in Wellington
Dear Liz,
You were our midwife for three beautiful babies (two of which were homebirths) and one miscarriage, and I felt so cared for each time. You showed me I could have the birth experience I wanted, that I was able to be safe and strong. You gave my partner and I the opportunity to bring our children into the world in the best possible way, a gift we have never forgotten. You made us joyful and confident parents. You have always remained in our thoughts, and will always have a place in our family. It is with much sadness and much love we bid you farewell.
Dear Lynn,
Thank you for sharing Liz with us. She always spoke of you with such fondness during our visits. Our thoughts are with you.
With lots of love,
Justine, Giovanni, Joseph, Lucia and Ambrose
You were our midwife for three beautiful babies (two of which were homebirths) and one miscarriage, and I felt so cared for each time. You showed me I could have the birth experience I wanted, that I was able to be safe and strong. You gave my partner and I the opportunity to bring our children into the world in the best possible way, a gift we have never forgotten. You made us joyful and confident parents. You have always remained in our thoughts, and will always have a place in our family. It is with much sadness and much love we bid you farewell.
Dear Lynn,
Thank you for sharing Liz with us. She always spoke of you with such fondness during our visits. Our thoughts are with you.
With lots of love,
Justine, Giovanni, Joseph, Lucia and Ambrose
Message from The Setefano Family in Wellington
Dear Liz,
I was very sad to hear of your illness and subsequent passing. Our thoughts and deepest sympathy go out to your family at this time.
Our paths first crossed in 1994 when I was searching for a midwife during my pregnancy with our second child, I made enquires with Dominoes Midwifes. We hit it off immediately as you made me feel very secure and at ease throughout my pregnancy, it was a pleasure and comfort having you there making the whole process seamless not to mention effortless, our son, Troy was born 15 April 1994. You may me feel like I could do anything!
I was so impressed with your professionalism I recommended you to my sister in law Janet who was also looking for a midwife at the time. Gabryel Oloapu was born 23 July 1994. Our friendship continued as we were privileged to have Liz on the following two occasions during the pregnancies’ of both our daughters, Michael in December 1999 and Madison in August 2005. After this time you commenced tutoring at Massey in Palmerston North.
Liz you will be proud to hear that Troy was named Bishop Viard College Head Boy 2011. Michael received the Academic Diligence cup for year 6 at Holy Family School 2010 and will begin Year 7 at Bishop Viard College in 2011. Madison is year 1 at Holy Family School.
Liz, rest in peace may God keep you in the palm of his hand.
Love
The Setefano Family,
Paul, Trish, Cameron, Troy, Michael and Madison
I was very sad to hear of your illness and subsequent passing. Our thoughts and deepest sympathy go out to your family at this time.
Our paths first crossed in 1994 when I was searching for a midwife during my pregnancy with our second child, I made enquires with Dominoes Midwifes. We hit it off immediately as you made me feel very secure and at ease throughout my pregnancy, it was a pleasure and comfort having you there making the whole process seamless not to mention effortless, our son, Troy was born 15 April 1994. You may me feel like I could do anything!
I was so impressed with your professionalism I recommended you to my sister in law Janet who was also looking for a midwife at the time. Gabryel Oloapu was born 23 July 1994. Our friendship continued as we were privileged to have Liz on the following two occasions during the pregnancies’ of both our daughters, Michael in December 1999 and Madison in August 2005. After this time you commenced tutoring at Massey in Palmerston North.
Liz you will be proud to hear that Troy was named Bishop Viard College Head Boy 2011. Michael received the Academic Diligence cup for year 6 at Holy Family School 2010 and will begin Year 7 at Bishop Viard College in 2011. Madison is year 1 at Holy Family School.
Liz, rest in peace may God keep you in the palm of his hand.
Love
The Setefano Family,
Paul, Trish, Cameron, Troy, Michael and Madison
Message from The Wellington Home Birth Association (WHBA)
The Wellington Home Birth Association would like to extend their love and sympathy to the family and friends of Liz Brunton who passed away peacefully at home on the 23rd of January 2011.
Liz was a long time member of the Wellington Home Birth Association, and always held home birth at the heart of her midwifery philosophy.
We would like to acknowledge her enormous contribution to home birth in Wellington as well as New Zealand and internationally. Her life has touched so many and she will be greatly missed by all who were blessed to know her.
Message for Lynn from Maree Arps
Dear Lynn,
I just want to let you know you are in my heart right now as you say goodbye to Liz. I have these amazing memories of a gentle, accepting and encouraging person who was in my life in Nelson all those years ago. It was so amazing to see you so happy and to see how much you loved each other. While we haven’t had contact in recent years I still think of you both and hope that Thursday is a true celebration of this wonderful woman - a great person full of grace.
Love Maree.
I just want to let you know you are in my heart right now as you say goodbye to Liz. I have these amazing memories of a gentle, accepting and encouraging person who was in my life in Nelson all those years ago. It was so amazing to see you so happy and to see how much you loved each other. While we haven’t had contact in recent years I still think of you both and hope that Thursday is a true celebration of this wonderful woman - a great person full of grace.
Love Maree.
Message from Verity O'Connor, Kath Boyle, Alex Williamson and Cherie Carline - midwives in Wellington
Dear Liz,
Thank you for your love and support which was always given freely. It is with great sadness we hear of your death. That sadness though is outweighed by the happiness from knowing you, the challenge of being taught by you and the pleasure for having worked with you. Travel well dear Liz and find rest and peace for all eternity. Our love and support to Lynn and family at this time. Shine on always.
With love,
Verity O'Connor, Kath Boyle, Alex Williamson and Cherie Carline
(Capital Midwifery Collective Dec 2005- April 2007).
Thank you for your love and support which was always given freely. It is with great sadness we hear of your death. That sadness though is outweighed by the happiness from knowing you, the challenge of being taught by you and the pleasure for having worked with you. Travel well dear Liz and find rest and peace for all eternity. Our love and support to Lynn and family at this time. Shine on always.
With love,
Verity O'Connor, Kath Boyle, Alex Williamson and Cherie Carline
(Capital Midwifery Collective Dec 2005- April 2007).
Message from Ann Nutsford in Otaki
Liz was someone who inspired confidence and her presence so reassuring to me when I had my third baby , and I was so very sick. I remembered her name as she was on the ball, friendly , and if she was around you knew you were getting the best care. When I read her name in the paper this morning I had to find out if it was my Liz from twenty five years ago. Sadly it was.My heart goes out to her partner , family and friends.
from Ann Nutsford. Otaki
from Ann Nutsford. Otaki
Messages above are following Liz's death on 23rd January 2011.
Messages below are before her death.
Message from Mum Harris
Dear Liz and Lynn,
My thoughts and prayers have been with you both constantly over the past months.
What a pleasure it was to have you join our family, Liz, and how much our lives have been enriched by your presence.
May God give you the peace and rest you so deserve.
All my love,
Mum
My thoughts and prayers have been with you both constantly over the past months.
What a pleasure it was to have you join our family, Liz, and how much our lives have been enriched by your presence.
May God give you the peace and rest you so deserve.
All my love,
Mum
Message from Cathy & Dennis in Wellington
Lynn, Liz, Cathy & Dennis
Living Tribute to a Most Special Person
Liz and Lyn..... We have been thinking of you, as have so many others at this time of ultimate testing.
I have been remembering all the wonderfully inclusive & happy experiences we've had since meeting you both - Liz at Polytech in the early '80s & Lyn a little later "down the track".
Lyn - thankyou so much for introducing us to the Living Tribute website for Liz; it is the most marvellous accolade and inspiration to any person I have ever encountered.
I have thought long & hard about how we can send ours to you, and somehow this way seems right. The sunflower on the front of the card, reminds me so much of you Liz - a "sunny sunny" soul with nothing but Giving & Living; your brilliant smile radiating like a beautiful flower. You have lit up lives by the score and every moment with you has always been precious.
A couple of endearing memories I have of you have emerged during thinking times. We once had a certain discussion in the staffroom at Polytech regarding the content of some items in a forthcoming Polyfollies! Something to do with wording for chosen songs e.g "There is nothing like a dame...." being one of them. You so nicely made a comment about the sexism aspect & we had a laugh or two. However, when the perspective of the time such songs were composed had been pointed out, you were totally accepting & threw yourself hollis-bollis into the show. In one scene, I recall one Liz Brunton gyrating across the stage in a black catsuit - an unrehearsed addition, that brought the place down!
Thereafter, when you joined us in Opera Technique, there was only one way to go as far as you were concerned, & that was 100% participation.
What admiration we had for you! Totally honest; totally involved; totally giving; totally dedicated. And this has been the way you have lived your life for friends, family & professionally.
We saw you socially later & always enjoyed every moment of laughter & warmth from you. We especially loved the Feb BBQs at your home & were most honoured to attend your commitment ceremony when Pinky Agnew officiated.
Thankyou! Thankyou! Thankyou Liz. Your spirit is free to travel whenever it will. We salute you.
Ka kite ano. Go well; see you again.
Cathy & Dennis
Liz and Lyn..... We have been thinking of you, as have so many others at this time of ultimate testing.
I have been remembering all the wonderfully inclusive & happy experiences we've had since meeting you both - Liz at Polytech in the early '80s & Lyn a little later "down the track".
Lyn - thankyou so much for introducing us to the Living Tribute website for Liz; it is the most marvellous accolade and inspiration to any person I have ever encountered.
I have thought long & hard about how we can send ours to you, and somehow this way seems right. The sunflower on the front of the card, reminds me so much of you Liz - a "sunny sunny" soul with nothing but Giving & Living; your brilliant smile radiating like a beautiful flower. You have lit up lives by the score and every moment with you has always been precious.
A couple of endearing memories I have of you have emerged during thinking times. We once had a certain discussion in the staffroom at Polytech regarding the content of some items in a forthcoming Polyfollies! Something to do with wording for chosen songs e.g "There is nothing like a dame...." being one of them. You so nicely made a comment about the sexism aspect & we had a laugh or two. However, when the perspective of the time such songs were composed had been pointed out, you were totally accepting & threw yourself hollis-bollis into the show. In one scene, I recall one Liz Brunton gyrating across the stage in a black catsuit - an unrehearsed addition, that brought the place down!
Thereafter, when you joined us in Opera Technique, there was only one way to go as far as you were concerned, & that was 100% participation.
What admiration we had for you! Totally honest; totally involved; totally giving; totally dedicated. And this has been the way you have lived your life for friends, family & professionally.
We saw you socially later & always enjoyed every moment of laughter & warmth from you. We especially loved the Feb BBQs at your home & were most honoured to attend your commitment ceremony when Pinky Agnew officiated.
Thankyou! Thankyou! Thankyou Liz. Your spirit is free to travel whenever it will. We salute you.
Ka kite ano. Go well; see you again.
Cathy & Dennis
Message from Carol & Wendy in Nelson
Liz, you have had a huge impact on my early days of 'breaking out' to be an independent midwife in Nelson in the late 80's. I remember your always willing ear when I phoned for advice, reassurance and just a natter. It felt like every day. Your friendship is always treasured.
Wendy and I have you both in our thoughts with love and support.
Lynn I cant remember when you haven't been part of our family, for that i treasure you too. What well chosen mate you have in Liz, or as my son Hamish would say, wizz.
Thank you both for your love, friendship and all that you are.
Om Tare Tuttare Ture Liz...Ayur Punye Jhana Push Kuru Ye...Soha (White Tara Mantra)
With love Carol & Wendy
Wendy and I have you both in our thoughts with love and support.
Lynn I cant remember when you haven't been part of our family, for that i treasure you too. What well chosen mate you have in Liz, or as my son Hamish would say, wizz.
Thank you both for your love, friendship and all that you are.
Om Tare Tuttare Ture Liz...Ayur Punye Jhana Push Kuru Ye...Soha (White Tara Mantra)
With love Carol & Wendy
Message from Shirl & Pete in Melbourne
Shirl & Pete
While we had known Lynn (her being a member of the famous Harris family) for a good many years it was in 1992 when you had that trip to Oz that we got to know you Liz. You were such a pleasure to have to visit – a gentle,lovely,calm lady.
What a pleasure that was –having you stay while shopping for good old Puckitiphanu (oops for the spelling) and the fun we and the girls had watching you get set for your big trip. New Years Eve walking around the kitchen table collating before stopping for bubbly and lots of fun stories – Harris story telling at its best – nothing beats it.
Your return to Melbourne and back to staying with us was again so much fun. You were so great with the girls and so patient. Who could forget the Cool Kids Club introduced by you two and the certificates that came with being a member. It must have helped as the girls never gave us too much grief.
Liz it was good to see you last year at a time when you were still looking pretty good. We will treasure that visit along with our other happy memories.
Sorry you will not be able to make it to Victoria and Jasons wedding – some things are not meant to be but we will be thinking of you.
God bless you both
Much love
Shirl, Pete, Julia and Adam, Laura and Anthony, Victoria and Jason.
xoxoxoxoxox
More photos below
What a pleasure that was –having you stay while shopping for good old Puckitiphanu (oops for the spelling) and the fun we and the girls had watching you get set for your big trip. New Years Eve walking around the kitchen table collating before stopping for bubbly and lots of fun stories – Harris story telling at its best – nothing beats it.
Your return to Melbourne and back to staying with us was again so much fun. You were so great with the girls and so patient. Who could forget the Cool Kids Club introduced by you two and the certificates that came with being a member. It must have helped as the girls never gave us too much grief.
Liz it was good to see you last year at a time when you were still looking pretty good. We will treasure that visit along with our other happy memories.
Sorry you will not be able to make it to Victoria and Jasons wedding – some things are not meant to be but we will be thinking of you.
God bless you both
Much love
Shirl, Pete, Julia and Adam, Laura and Anthony, Victoria and Jason.
xoxoxoxoxox
More photos below
Message from Margi Martin gardening in the rain in Whakatane...
To dearest Liz ...
... you who knows the heart to heart and what is more can see beyond the pale...so many gentle moments you have witnessed and breathed out as others held their breath... i loved seeing you seeing the golden light ... watching your own magic hands float over and around the tough seeking the tender...so many years ago and yet always present...living into and then out through the life we are given ...your star came over the garden today and i waved out to you down there with your Lynn...
.....my love and peace always...Margi
... you who knows the heart to heart and what is more can see beyond the pale...so many gentle moments you have witnessed and breathed out as others held their breath... i loved seeing you seeing the golden light ... watching your own magic hands float over and around the tough seeking the tender...so many years ago and yet always present...living into and then out through the life we are given ...your star came over the garden today and i waved out to you down there with your Lynn...
.....my love and peace always...Margi
Message from Pat - another side to Liz's life story.....
Liz and Pat Tie at BBQ
Dear Liz,
When you and Lynn came along and joined the Karori Bowling Club in the early 1990s, you not only showed a promising ability to roll a bowl, but both of you were so supportive of the Club in any way you could think of. With Lynn's administrative skills (gained from her tennis career) she took care (as President) of the newly formed Women's section and (inevitably I guess) you stepped in as secretary. Such a helpful start for us.
You both achieved well on the green, and made friends with all, successfully ran a fund-raiser at Downstage which I seem to recall benefitted the Club by something like $2000. Quite a tough job getting support but you both managed it, and those of us who were a part of the Club at that time don't forget. You also sponsored galas and were always ready to "hold your hand up". Not only on the Admin side. Both of you achieved well on the green, and one of the men in the Club remembers well playing Liz in a marathon Handicap Singles match which went to 38 ends! John was sad (and perhaps shocked) to hear from me of the place you are now at Liz darling.
How I have anjoyed my friendship with both you ladies, sharing my 70th birthday, Liz" surprise 50th, your commitment ceremony, occasional evenings or lunches. I always hoped you could both rejoin the Bowling Club, but "things got in your way" and reading through the blogs and tributes it's no wonder neither of you could fit much more into your lives. Lives so well lived and shared with many who all clearly love you dearly.
It was so good to share lunch with you not so long ago Liz - you even drove yourself over to my place, brought flowers picked from your garden, and we proceeded to the "Quiet Lady". I always hoped that there would be more occasions, but the cancer precluded that dammit.
So just let me say, I admire and love you Liz, will be so sad when you leave us, and will always cherish your memory. My love also goes to Lynn who is the best support person you could wish for. God speed.
With love from Pat
17th December 2010
When you and Lynn came along and joined the Karori Bowling Club in the early 1990s, you not only showed a promising ability to roll a bowl, but both of you were so supportive of the Club in any way you could think of. With Lynn's administrative skills (gained from her tennis career) she took care (as President) of the newly formed Women's section and (inevitably I guess) you stepped in as secretary. Such a helpful start for us.
You both achieved well on the green, and made friends with all, successfully ran a fund-raiser at Downstage which I seem to recall benefitted the Club by something like $2000. Quite a tough job getting support but you both managed it, and those of us who were a part of the Club at that time don't forget. You also sponsored galas and were always ready to "hold your hand up". Not only on the Admin side. Both of you achieved well on the green, and one of the men in the Club remembers well playing Liz in a marathon Handicap Singles match which went to 38 ends! John was sad (and perhaps shocked) to hear from me of the place you are now at Liz darling.
How I have anjoyed my friendship with both you ladies, sharing my 70th birthday, Liz" surprise 50th, your commitment ceremony, occasional evenings or lunches. I always hoped you could both rejoin the Bowling Club, but "things got in your way" and reading through the blogs and tributes it's no wonder neither of you could fit much more into your lives. Lives so well lived and shared with many who all clearly love you dearly.
It was so good to share lunch with you not so long ago Liz - you even drove yourself over to my place, brought flowers picked from your garden, and we proceeded to the "Quiet Lady". I always hoped that there would be more occasions, but the cancer precluded that dammit.
So just let me say, I admire and love you Liz, will be so sad when you leave us, and will always cherish your memory. My love also goes to Lynn who is the best support person you could wish for. God speed.
With love from Pat
17th December 2010
Message from Vicky Fabian and her family, Highbury, Wellington
Matthew aged 8.5 yrs old
Dear Liz and Lynn,
We are so lucky to have you as neighbours. And Liz how delighted I was to have my midwife living just across the road! From when I was newly pregnant and anxious to when I became a mum and was still a little anxious - you were always so calm, reassuring and encouraging. You really helped me realise I could do it.
I can remember so clearly in the hospital, about two hours before Matthew was born, Norm informed us that he had to go into work for half an hour to attend to something urgent! And you replied very firmly and matter-of-factly "You can't. You're going to have a baby!" Of course not another word was said!
I loved seeing you zipping about in your blue car - a snappy 3-point turn at the top of Old Bullock Road and you'd be off.
We think of you both so often and you have given us much inspiration and food for thought in the way you are coping with this life stage together. Such unwavering warmth and generosity of spirit, it's truly a privilege to know you.
With all our love,
Vicky, Norm and Matthew - 12 Old Bullock Road, Highbury
Message from Jeanette Brunton (Liz's sister)
The Brunton Sisters
Dearest Elizabeth
Reading this blog brings smiles and tears. Part of your legacy is your sense of the sacred in every baby’s birth. What an extraordinary influence you have had and will always have on others, dear sister.
It has always been so. Mum loved to tell this story. You stood up for yourself from your earliest years. As a wee girl one day, you were being told off by Mum for some misdeed. You faced your tall and forceful mother with your hands on your hips, and said, “Zu just mind zuself!”
Because Dad died 10 days before your 4th birthday, the main influence on your upbringing was our mother, a woman of strong Christian faith, from whom love, compassion, wisdom and generosity flowed to others just as they have flowed from you. I am very proud to be a sister of such an extraordinary woman.
You have been a rock of strength and love in the major crises of my life – your strong arms in loving embrace holding me close. You have also been there at the major celebrations – your singing and laughter ringing out.
I celebrate your life and mourn your leaving of it, as we siblings did for our other sister Barbara, also a nurse and midwife, who died almost three years ago. Barbara and Elizabeth - the best huggers in the business. Both have loved generously and have been greatly loved.
Dear Lynn, you have been part of Elizabeth’s life and that of the Brunton family for over 22 years, as Elizabeth has been part of the Harris family. Lynn, you are the best of partners. You and Elizabeth found and nurtured treasure in each other. I am so grateful for your sustaining love and care of my beloved sister.
And now abide faith, hope and love – and the greatest of these is love.
Jeanette Brunton
16th December 2010
Reading this blog brings smiles and tears. Part of your legacy is your sense of the sacred in every baby’s birth. What an extraordinary influence you have had and will always have on others, dear sister.
It has always been so. Mum loved to tell this story. You stood up for yourself from your earliest years. As a wee girl one day, you were being told off by Mum for some misdeed. You faced your tall and forceful mother with your hands on your hips, and said, “Zu just mind zuself!”
Because Dad died 10 days before your 4th birthday, the main influence on your upbringing was our mother, a woman of strong Christian faith, from whom love, compassion, wisdom and generosity flowed to others just as they have flowed from you. I am very proud to be a sister of such an extraordinary woman.
You have been a rock of strength and love in the major crises of my life – your strong arms in loving embrace holding me close. You have also been there at the major celebrations – your singing and laughter ringing out.
I celebrate your life and mourn your leaving of it, as we siblings did for our other sister Barbara, also a nurse and midwife, who died almost three years ago. Barbara and Elizabeth - the best huggers in the business. Both have loved generously and have been greatly loved.
Dear Lynn, you have been part of Elizabeth’s life and that of the Brunton family for over 22 years, as Elizabeth has been part of the Harris family. Lynn, you are the best of partners. You and Elizabeth found and nurtured treasure in each other. I am so grateful for your sustaining love and care of my beloved sister.
And now abide faith, hope and love – and the greatest of these is love.
Jeanette Brunton
16th December 2010
Message from Gwen and family
Hello to you both,
Only found out about this system last night from Michelle.
Really enjoyed reading about your wonderful South Is trip and do understand the wonder at the awesome sights to see down there, Felt great revisiting the spots with you thanks both of you for great descriptions.
Hey Liz really admire your (guts) cant think of a better description for your balloon flight , Havn't felt a desire to do that LOL. Had a lady a few years ago had her family pay for her to do this for her 80th , so I have a few years to ???change my mind senility may give me a push in that direction. Im usually pretty willing to give things a go but I like to feel a bit in control of my sporting acrivities (be honest) Im really competitive when it comes to sport so probably need to confess need to be in control of myself lol
I did enjoy seeing you and send best thoughts to you both every day. I am going up to Janets for Xmas Will go Monday and back to Douglas and Jimileen's for tea Xmas night and over to join Ngaire and girls boxing day.
Bye now
Love Gwen and family
16th December 2010
Only found out about this system last night from Michelle.
Really enjoyed reading about your wonderful South Is trip and do understand the wonder at the awesome sights to see down there, Felt great revisiting the spots with you thanks both of you for great descriptions.
Hey Liz really admire your (guts) cant think of a better description for your balloon flight , Havn't felt a desire to do that LOL. Had a lady a few years ago had her family pay for her to do this for her 80th , so I have a few years to ???change my mind senility may give me a push in that direction. Im usually pretty willing to give things a go but I like to feel a bit in control of my sporting acrivities (be honest) Im really competitive when it comes to sport so probably need to confess need to be in control of myself lol
I did enjoy seeing you and send best thoughts to you both every day. I am going up to Janets for Xmas Will go Monday and back to Douglas and Jimileen's for tea Xmas night and over to join Ngaire and girls boxing day.
Bye now
Love Gwen and family
16th December 2010
Message from Ann Thomson and her family in Wellington
Ben & Charlotte Thomson Waldron
Liz, today is the day 9 years ago that you delivered our first born, Benjamin.
You were our midwife again 4 years ago when we had Charlotte, and we wouldn't have wanted it any other way. We loved your calm, gentle reassuring, caring and relaxed way. I know I wasn't one of your easiest clients!
Thank you for all you have done for mothers and families. You are a wonderful, wise and inspirational woman.
Love Ann, Tim, Ben & Charlotte (Thomson Waldron)
14th December 2010
Message from Kay (Lynn's cousin) and Don in Rotorua
Dear Liz and Lynn,
A short note to say we have so much enjoyed you 'walking ' together in our lives....what a great pity we did not know you before Lynn found you for us Liz.?? For a long while Lynn has a special spot in our hearts, something to do with similar age perhaps and knowing her genetic stock and family)...we often think and speak of you both ...and that makes us happy. Thank you.
Our Liz and Lynn garden in Rotorua will be our constant reminder of you both, and reminder I need to email no doubt! Hopefully we will get Mum Coral north to visit that spot...just once at least. As I write this she is in Wairau Hospital recovering well from dehydration and sparking on all cylinders tonight. Long may it last?
With love from us both (and Mum Coral)
Kay and Don.
Message from Jeannette Svane Holst, midwife in Denmark
What a wonderful website. I have been enjoying all the lovely pictures - they are telling the story about you and Lynn so well.
Although we have been living on each side of the world you have been a big part of my life as a midwife. It has been such a joy to learn from you and to experience the way of practising midwifery in NZ - thank you so much Liz. I have passed on so many things that you tought me to danish midwifery collegues and students.
The mug that you gave me ("midwifing is the choicest job") has been "travelling" with me from one hospital to another here in Denmark - being the opening to many conversations about you and NZ.
Thinking of you Liz
- and you too Lynn.
Love Jeannette
(Jørn, Rose & Adam are sending their love as well)
Although we have been living on each side of the world you have been a big part of my life as a midwife. It has been such a joy to learn from you and to experience the way of practising midwifery in NZ - thank you so much Liz. I have passed on so many things that you tought me to danish midwifery collegues and students.
The mug that you gave me ("midwifing is the choicest job") has been "travelling" with me from one hospital to another here in Denmark - being the opening to many conversations about you and NZ.
Thinking of you Liz
- and you too Lynn.
Love Jeannette
(Jørn, Rose & Adam are sending their love as well)
Message from Gale Walker from Wellington
Beautiful Liz
I have so loved having you come and see me all this time, getting to do your hair and having a warm chat with you. Do you know I'm sure its been about 20 years. Can you believe it?
I can't actually remember a time in my hairdressing life that you and Lynn haven't been there. It's special people like you Liz and Lynn who have made me love Wellington like I do.
You have both been such great friends over this time. Sharing your lives with me. Inviting me to your wedding which I have to say was an awesome occasion.
Getting to meet your family and friends, and experiencing the incredible inspiring love that you two have for each other.
Lynn came in to get her hair cut the other day without you and I am forced to realize that this is going somewhere I didn't want to believe.
I love you Liz and I'm so glad that your are surrounded by so may loving friends and family.
Gale
13th December 2010
I have so loved having you come and see me all this time, getting to do your hair and having a warm chat with you. Do you know I'm sure its been about 20 years. Can you believe it?
I can't actually remember a time in my hairdressing life that you and Lynn haven't been there. It's special people like you Liz and Lynn who have made me love Wellington like I do.
You have both been such great friends over this time. Sharing your lives with me. Inviting me to your wedding which I have to say was an awesome occasion.
Getting to meet your family and friends, and experiencing the incredible inspiring love that you two have for each other.
Lynn came in to get her hair cut the other day without you and I am forced to realize that this is going somewhere I didn't want to believe.
I love you Liz and I'm so glad that your are surrounded by so may loving friends and family.
Gale
13th December 2010
Message from Karen Daniels, midwife in Wellington
Dear Liz,
It has taken me a long time to get round to making my contribution to your living tribute site. Mostly because I'm website phobic. But reading Lynn's words this morning, I realized I needed to get over myself. And what better time than right now! Sorry for the delay.
I met you about 11 years ago. I came for an interview with Domino midwives in the Olive cafe – the then regular meeting place of the DMs. And was fortunate to join the Domino group about 6 months later. Despite having midwifed in a number of enviroments, I was amazed at the roller coaster ride independent midwifery presented. And gently supporting me in the background, while I found my feet, was you. With your gentle wisdom. Your quiet, reflective support. Together with Lynn, you welcomed me, included me and enabled me to find my way. No.3 Koromiko road will always have a special place in my heart.
I have always admired your relentless passion for midwifery, and the fluidity with which you integrated midwifery with your life. The way you welcomed, included and supported so many midwives on your journey. What a fabulous contribution you have made to the families and midwives of Wellington. What gorgeous, rich memories and experiences you have shared with me and now leave with me to treasure.
Thankyou for all that you are. For all that you have done. And all that you will continue to be, through the stories and memories that will be shared for years and years to come.
Much love
Karen
13th December 2010
It has taken me a long time to get round to making my contribution to your living tribute site. Mostly because I'm website phobic. But reading Lynn's words this morning, I realized I needed to get over myself. And what better time than right now! Sorry for the delay.
I met you about 11 years ago. I came for an interview with Domino midwives in the Olive cafe – the then regular meeting place of the DMs. And was fortunate to join the Domino group about 6 months later. Despite having midwifed in a number of enviroments, I was amazed at the roller coaster ride independent midwifery presented. And gently supporting me in the background, while I found my feet, was you. With your gentle wisdom. Your quiet, reflective support. Together with Lynn, you welcomed me, included me and enabled me to find my way. No.3 Koromiko road will always have a special place in my heart.
I have always admired your relentless passion for midwifery, and the fluidity with which you integrated midwifery with your life. The way you welcomed, included and supported so many midwives on your journey. What a fabulous contribution you have made to the families and midwives of Wellington. What gorgeous, rich memories and experiences you have shared with me and now leave with me to treasure.
Thankyou for all that you are. For all that you have done. And all that you will continue to be, through the stories and memories that will be shared for years and years to come.
Much love
Karen
13th December 2010
Message from Jamilah Kahurangi Gupwell
Dear Aunty Liz,
You have been a part of my life ever since I can remember and the many times when I stayed with you and Aunty Lynn have always been great moments for me. Trips to the Discovery Centre and staying at Koromiko Road with you during school holidays have always been highlights for me that I have treasured while growing up.
I can remember when I was still at primary school and after going past the Victoria Uni in Wellington, I swore that I would go to that uni and I would be living with you and Aunty Lynn. And after many years passed and I was given the opportunity to play for the Shakers in the National Bank Cup that is exactly what I did.
The year that I lived with you and Aunty Lynn has always been a big turning point for me... It was the year that I grew up and became independant and that would never have happened without you being there. Thank you for letting me stay and trying to teach me the differences between different wines with the customary glass with dinner and also trying to get me into the mode of cooking (I think I loved your curry cashew coleslaw and curries too much to make a proper effort haha) But all that you did try to teach me helped prepare me for life flatting and to survive the big bad world.
Another great moment of mine was that I was also blessed to be a part of your commitment ceremony and your civil union and the love that was there during that day between two of my favourite aunties will forever be etched in my mind. I am hoping to find that kind of love with someone and be able to share my life with them. You both have set the bar high.
Both you and Aunty Lynn have always been huge fans of my netball career. Always being there for me at every game (with your season passes) and always encouraging me and saying that I was the best player on the team (very biased view haha) even if we weren't doing too well. You also have given me great advice whether it has been with my personal life or with my netball and that advice has led to me making the best decision of my life... to move out of my comfort zone (Wellington) and have the strength to leave what I know to pursue my netball dream and make the move to Magic for the 2011 ANZ season. I will never forget it and I promise that this will be my best season yet and I will think of you when things get tough.
I'm so proud that I have had you as a part of my life Aunty Liz. You are an inspirational woman even before this wretched illness has tried its best to take you away from us, and the way that you have fought it is truly amazing. The Harris family christmases will be the worse without you and I will miss your beautiful singing voice mingling with Dads but I promise that we will never forget how much you mean to us and how much we love you. Words cannot explain how much I do.
I am sending all my love to two beautiful, inspirational women in my life.
Arohanui,
Jamilah Kahurangi Gupwell.
xox.
You have been a part of my life ever since I can remember and the many times when I stayed with you and Aunty Lynn have always been great moments for me. Trips to the Discovery Centre and staying at Koromiko Road with you during school holidays have always been highlights for me that I have treasured while growing up.
I can remember when I was still at primary school and after going past the Victoria Uni in Wellington, I swore that I would go to that uni and I would be living with you and Aunty Lynn. And after many years passed and I was given the opportunity to play for the Shakers in the National Bank Cup that is exactly what I did.
The year that I lived with you and Aunty Lynn has always been a big turning point for me... It was the year that I grew up and became independant and that would never have happened without you being there. Thank you for letting me stay and trying to teach me the differences between different wines with the customary glass with dinner and also trying to get me into the mode of cooking (I think I loved your curry cashew coleslaw and curries too much to make a proper effort haha) But all that you did try to teach me helped prepare me for life flatting and to survive the big bad world.
Another great moment of mine was that I was also blessed to be a part of your commitment ceremony and your civil union and the love that was there during that day between two of my favourite aunties will forever be etched in my mind. I am hoping to find that kind of love with someone and be able to share my life with them. You both have set the bar high.
Both you and Aunty Lynn have always been huge fans of my netball career. Always being there for me at every game (with your season passes) and always encouraging me and saying that I was the best player on the team (very biased view haha) even if we weren't doing too well. You also have given me great advice whether it has been with my personal life or with my netball and that advice has led to me making the best decision of my life... to move out of my comfort zone (Wellington) and have the strength to leave what I know to pursue my netball dream and make the move to Magic for the 2011 ANZ season. I will never forget it and I promise that this will be my best season yet and I will think of you when things get tough.
I'm so proud that I have had you as a part of my life Aunty Liz. You are an inspirational woman even before this wretched illness has tried its best to take you away from us, and the way that you have fought it is truly amazing. The Harris family christmases will be the worse without you and I will miss your beautiful singing voice mingling with Dads but I promise that we will never forget how much you mean to us and how much we love you. Words cannot explain how much I do.
I am sending all my love to two beautiful, inspirational women in my life.
Arohanui,
Jamilah Kahurangi Gupwell.
xox.
Message from Karen (Lynn's sister) and her family
My first standout impression of you was one family Christmas with Kevie at the helm of the singing with his guitar and beer in hand and during a drinks break (many) this amazing voice in the background burst into song singing "Summertime"....and I thought my God, this woman should be in the opera....! I can still hear you singing that Liz and always will whether you are in this world or the next.
I also always think of you when I hear the Mamas and Papas in fact Mama Cass has had a fair hiding here in the past couple of weeks.
When I think of you Liz I think "calm"....I can't really explain it but you have an aura around you that whenever I am in your company I feel a sense of calm and that everything will be alright. You are one of those people who leave light footprints wherever you go. We are all thinking of you and giving you and Lynn our strength to carry you both through this transition. The only thing I ask is could you please leave your "aura" here with us when you go so a little bit of you can still rub off on us and we can all be better people in your absence.
All our love.
Karen, Mossy, Meika and Tom
Hay and James
I also always think of you when I hear the Mamas and Papas in fact Mama Cass has had a fair hiding here in the past couple of weeks.
When I think of you Liz I think "calm"....I can't really explain it but you have an aura around you that whenever I am in your company I feel a sense of calm and that everything will be alright. You are one of those people who leave light footprints wherever you go. We are all thinking of you and giving you and Lynn our strength to carry you both through this transition. The only thing I ask is could you please leave your "aura" here with us when you go so a little bit of you can still rub off on us and we can all be better people in your absence.
All our love.
Karen, Mossy, Meika and Tom
Hay and James
Message from Clare Brockett, currently in South America
Hi Lynn and Liz
I've been thinking of you so much since traveling to the other side of the world.
It is wonderful of course to see Margie again, and she sends her love to you both.
Liz, when I see the vibrant colours here in South America I think of you and how much you have offered people in life and continue to do so in your dying. Always giving, down to earth, fun to be with and incredibly generous of spirit.
Lynn, as you continue in limbo time with Liz, know you are in my heart every day. Be gentle with yourself dear friend.
To both of you - breathe, be silent, laugh when needed - know you are being held.
Much love Clare (and Margie)
I've been thinking of you so much since traveling to the other side of the world.
It is wonderful of course to see Margie again, and she sends her love to you both.
Liz, when I see the vibrant colours here in South America I think of you and how much you have offered people in life and continue to do so in your dying. Always giving, down to earth, fun to be with and incredibly generous of spirit.
Lynn, as you continue in limbo time with Liz, know you are in my heart every day. Be gentle with yourself dear friend.
To both of you - breathe, be silent, laugh when needed - know you are being held.
Much love Clare (and Margie)
Message from Kristen Cargill in Nelson
I have been starring at this page for many days wondering how i can put my love and appreciation for you in words. And then I looked at my baby photos.
There is one of you standing with the Cargill family at my christening, and you looked so happy! It was your life career to bring that little baby into the world, and such friendship and love that made you her godmother, my godmother!
I remember coming to visit you in Wellington and eating a box of roll up's next to a big window. and all the most special bitrthday presents and christmas letters.
Mum and I always talk about how you came into our lives. You were so strong and loyal through her pregnancy, which turned into unwavering friendship. then you became a part of the family and we met your beautiful partner who was also mum's tutor in nursing.
I'm home in Nelson until February when I'll return to Otago University to continue with my second year in Tourism, Business and French. It's going to be such a roller coaster of new experiences with my first year flatting.
I am so glad to have you in my life, to call you my godmother. You are such a fiercely loyal friend to my mother, myself and all your great companions. Our love and memory of you will never ever diminish.
All my love and thoughts for you both.
Kristen May Cargill
There is one of you standing with the Cargill family at my christening, and you looked so happy! It was your life career to bring that little baby into the world, and such friendship and love that made you her godmother, my godmother!
I remember coming to visit you in Wellington and eating a box of roll up's next to a big window. and all the most special bitrthday presents and christmas letters.
Mum and I always talk about how you came into our lives. You were so strong and loyal through her pregnancy, which turned into unwavering friendship. then you became a part of the family and we met your beautiful partner who was also mum's tutor in nursing.
I'm home in Nelson until February when I'll return to Otago University to continue with my second year in Tourism, Business and French. It's going to be such a roller coaster of new experiences with my first year flatting.
I am so glad to have you in my life, to call you my godmother. You are such a fiercely loyal friend to my mother, myself and all your great companions. Our love and memory of you will never ever diminish.
All my love and thoughts for you both.
Kristen May Cargill
Message from Rhia Stone, Wellington
Liz with Rhia at 8 weeks on day of her Naming Ceremony.
Lovely Liz,
I have been meaning to post something for some time now, but have been finding it very hard to do, as it means that I have to come to terms with you dying.
I will always remember that it was your hands that palpated me, your ears that listened to me and that it was you who ultimately saw me into this world safe and sound and loved.
I will never forget you in the several roles that I have known you (midwife, educator, friend), and also in all those you have been to other people.
Lots of love to you and Lynn.
Rhia Stone
(Photo from nearly 17 years ago)
Message from Ali (Waide), Thomas, Theo and Micah in Wellington
Thomas, Theo, Ali and Micah
Thankyou for your wise guidance on our journey to parenthood, Theo is wonderful and finally sleeps and I know Kass has told you about our lovely Micah.
You helped us so much and we will always be grateful.
Our love and thoughts are with you.
Love Ali, Thomas, Theo and Micah.
Message from the Abraham-Meads
Libby
The motorways, streets and garages of Wellington and the wider countryside are a safer place thanks to you because you taught me to drive. I’m not sure anyone else could have channelled the dangerous mixture of over-confidence and fear that pulsed through my 19 year old frame as I revved up the 82 Mazda hatchback. I can only remember one moment where your confidence wavered as I went to power forward only to discover that we were reversing towards a lamppost. Your knuckles went white but your voice was calm as we got back on track.
Your optimism and your belief in me during those driving lessons shone out and I really needed it! (any accidents since are my own fault!).
When I think of you, I feel your spirit, it’s a soaring spirit that plays its own music. When I came back from San Francisco last year, having played happy trails in hippy Haight-Ashbury, Mum told me about your illness. I put on the Mamas and the Papas because I like their music and because I remember you saying that the first album you bought when you went overseas in the late 60s was ‘If You Can Believe Your Eyes and Ears.’ The same harmony, life, positive energy that I hear in that music I see in you. You ‘go where you want to go’, you’re a ‘straight shooter’ and you’re definitely ‘somebody groovy’!
Suni, Ashwin and I, we are all so lucky to have you in our lives. You were there at Ashwin’s birth (and probably mine), at our marriage. Your relationship with Lynn is an inspiration to us. We’re all going to miss you so much.
Michael, Suni, Ashwin
The motorways, streets and garages of Wellington and the wider countryside are a safer place thanks to you because you taught me to drive. I’m not sure anyone else could have channelled the dangerous mixture of over-confidence and fear that pulsed through my 19 year old frame as I revved up the 82 Mazda hatchback. I can only remember one moment where your confidence wavered as I went to power forward only to discover that we were reversing towards a lamppost. Your knuckles went white but your voice was calm as we got back on track.
Your optimism and your belief in me during those driving lessons shone out and I really needed it! (any accidents since are my own fault!).
When I think of you, I feel your spirit, it’s a soaring spirit that plays its own music. When I came back from San Francisco last year, having played happy trails in hippy Haight-Ashbury, Mum told me about your illness. I put on the Mamas and the Papas because I like their music and because I remember you saying that the first album you bought when you went overseas in the late 60s was ‘If You Can Believe Your Eyes and Ears.’ The same harmony, life, positive energy that I hear in that music I see in you. You ‘go where you want to go’, you’re a ‘straight shooter’ and you’re definitely ‘somebody groovy’!
Suni, Ashwin and I, we are all so lucky to have you in our lives. You were there at Ashwin’s birth (and probably mine), at our marriage. Your relationship with Lynn is an inspiration to us. We’re all going to miss you so much.
Michael, Suni, Ashwin
From Liz's niece, Catherine, and her family in Melbourne
Liz, Michael and Catherine at Liz's 40th
Dearest Liz
You gave me my first pair of cool jeans – hipster flares as I recall. You introduced me to some pretty awesome music, and one memorable night , brought around a joint as your contribution to tea. You were so cool it was hard to believe you were a grownup.
The main thing that I think of when I think of you though, is that every time I saw you, whether I was 6 or 36, you’d always wrap me in a massive bear hug. Those hugs were like a moment’s stillness in a crazy world . A promise of peace, a blessing of Love.
Our love and blessings go out to you and Lynn now. And all those hugs you gave – may they come back 100 fold.
With much Love
Catherine, Matt, Nic, Sammy and Lauren Elisabeth
xxx
Message from Shari Bewley, midwifery student in Wellington
Dear Liz
In the short space of time I have known you, through my journey into midwifery, you have really touched my heart.
You are truly an inspiration to me and what you stand for. Your passion for midwifery continues to shine through, even that day we came to see you.
I think of you always and I know we will meet again one day, xxoo.
And to Lynn, thank you for sharing your Liz with us, when I think about Liz at home, in that beautiful house that you share together, looking out over the harbour, it feels like you are in another place. It is so peaceful and such a perfect place so spend time together.
Enjoy your time together and thank you again.
xxoo Shari Bewley
In the short space of time I have known you, through my journey into midwifery, you have really touched my heart.
You are truly an inspiration to me and what you stand for. Your passion for midwifery continues to shine through, even that day we came to see you.
I think of you always and I know we will meet again one day, xxoo.
And to Lynn, thank you for sharing your Liz with us, when I think about Liz at home, in that beautiful house that you share together, looking out over the harbour, it feels like you are in another place. It is so peaceful and such a perfect place so spend time together.
Enjoy your time together and thank you again.
xxoo Shari Bewley
Message from Laura, Claire, Daniel, Ely and Cerys in Lower Hutt
Dear Liz and Lynn,
Words are hard to find. We want to say, "everything that they all said" because we recognise so much of what everyone is saying. Liz, just looking at our children, their start to the world is filled with stories of you.
Daniel's birth, the never ending labour of days and days... Moving from our home birth plan to hospital. You being alongside us, calm, encouraging and allowing us to accept things just as they unfolded. Which isn't to say you were passive in such things. I remember hearing a nurse tell you that Claire could not have more pain medication as the doctor was in a meeting and could not be disturbed, you said, "can't be disturbed, watch me!" And off you marched and medication was provided! And of course the story of Ely! It looked as if Ely was not going to make it into the world to live a life with us.. and here he is running around and being his beautiful self.
Your support throughout our pregnancy with Cerys and being alongside us despite her being an elective caesarian. You being at her birth was just as important, and we remember you going "yoohoo" when they said she was a girl! :-)
We were so grateful for the support and love you gave to our family, and so aware that it was a team effort - with Lynn being so generous in her support of you so you could do this amazing thing for us. We are so thankful to have had such a wonderful friendship with you both.
We are holding you in our hearts,
Laura, Claire, Daniel, Ely and Cerys
(photos below of our children)
Words are hard to find. We want to say, "everything that they all said" because we recognise so much of what everyone is saying. Liz, just looking at our children, their start to the world is filled with stories of you.
Daniel's birth, the never ending labour of days and days... Moving from our home birth plan to hospital. You being alongside us, calm, encouraging and allowing us to accept things just as they unfolded. Which isn't to say you were passive in such things. I remember hearing a nurse tell you that Claire could not have more pain medication as the doctor was in a meeting and could not be disturbed, you said, "can't be disturbed, watch me!" And off you marched and medication was provided! And of course the story of Ely! It looked as if Ely was not going to make it into the world to live a life with us.. and here he is running around and being his beautiful self.
Your support throughout our pregnancy with Cerys and being alongside us despite her being an elective caesarian. You being at her birth was just as important, and we remember you going "yoohoo" when they said she was a girl! :-)
We were so grateful for the support and love you gave to our family, and so aware that it was a team effort - with Lynn being so generous in her support of you so you could do this amazing thing for us. We are so thankful to have had such a wonderful friendship with you both.
We are holding you in our hearts,
Laura, Claire, Daniel, Ely and Cerys
(photos below of our children)
Message from Lynn's sister Robyn and the Moars
Dear Liz
Although we are unable to be with you, our love, support and thoughts are with you throughout this time. We want to say a huge thank you for your neat sense of humour – (you certainly need one being a part of our family!)
Thank you for your calming influence and expertise on numerous subjects and situations. Your input and support during our own trying times in the Moar family was always appreciated – and always will be. We can’t begin to imagine how many lives you have influenced with your positive outlook on life. Your cheery disposition and the way you make the kids feel special, has been so important to them.
Although we believe in miracles, (and that sometimes they do happen) we are all too well aware that life isn’t always fair or just, and we have never been given a good enough reason to justify this.
God bless you Liz, our love goes with you always.
Kiakaha, Arohanui
From the Moars
Dear Lynn
Our love, support and thoughts are with you also. Cherish the time you have and the memories you have made.
All our love
The Moars
Although we are unable to be with you, our love, support and thoughts are with you throughout this time. We want to say a huge thank you for your neat sense of humour – (you certainly need one being a part of our family!)
Thank you for your calming influence and expertise on numerous subjects and situations. Your input and support during our own trying times in the Moar family was always appreciated – and always will be. We can’t begin to imagine how many lives you have influenced with your positive outlook on life. Your cheery disposition and the way you make the kids feel special, has been so important to them.
Although we believe in miracles, (and that sometimes they do happen) we are all too well aware that life isn’t always fair or just, and we have never been given a good enough reason to justify this.
God bless you Liz, our love goes with you always.
Kiakaha, Arohanui
From the Moars
Dear Lynn
Our love, support and thoughts are with you also. Cherish the time you have and the memories you have made.
All our love
The Moars
Message from Martha, Aaron and Sacha...
Aaron, Martha and Sacha
Dear Liz
We wanted to tell you how much we love you and how much we will miss you. Thank you for sharing your ever present smile, your joyfulness and your pearls of wisdom with us. You are a much loved and respected part of our family.
Love always Martha, Aaron and Sacha xxx
Message from Rachael Meikle & Guy
Greetings and Farewell
Hi Liz and Lynn
Our life was enriched when we met before the arrival of our twin girls Amelia & Sophie (who will be 9yrs on Christmas Eve- yes this showed your dedication to the job visting all throughout the Xmas period) and our son Elliot just over 4 years ago.
How lucky we were to have your expert care and guidance during our pregnancy. Your living tribute just shows what an amazing influence you have had for so many people and though I can not put it as eloquently as others I remember and treasure the advice you gave. I recall you telling stories of your mother always being in the kitchen cooking, my children love looking at the photos of you weighing them using a nappy and a spring balance and I recall you visiting and pinching a pinenut or two from our salad as we ate lunch on the lawn. I am grateful for this opportunity to say goodbye as I thought I could have missed the opportunity as we have been in Belgium for the last year and returned to Wtgn a month ago.
Thank you for your gift of caring and being an inspirational midwife and health professional plus being down to earth and being able to see the lighter side of life.
With love Rachael Meikle & Guy
Hi Liz and Lynn
Our life was enriched when we met before the arrival of our twin girls Amelia & Sophie (who will be 9yrs on Christmas Eve- yes this showed your dedication to the job visting all throughout the Xmas period) and our son Elliot just over 4 years ago.
How lucky we were to have your expert care and guidance during our pregnancy. Your living tribute just shows what an amazing influence you have had for so many people and though I can not put it as eloquently as others I remember and treasure the advice you gave. I recall you telling stories of your mother always being in the kitchen cooking, my children love looking at the photos of you weighing them using a nappy and a spring balance and I recall you visiting and pinching a pinenut or two from our salad as we ate lunch on the lawn. I am grateful for this opportunity to say goodbye as I thought I could have missed the opportunity as we have been in Belgium for the last year and returned to Wtgn a month ago.
Thank you for your gift of caring and being an inspirational midwife and health professional plus being down to earth and being able to see the lighter side of life.
With love Rachael Meikle & Guy
Message from Gail (Lynn's sister) and Garry in Nelson
Dearest Lizzie
Just wanted you to know our thoughts and prayers are with you and Lynn at this time. Know you are enjoying time together, building up more precious memories.
Lizzie you have been a big part of our family and have enriched our lives in so many ways. So many wonderful things to remember and cherish. Your wonderful sense of humour and ever present smile even as the illness took hold. Your beautiful harmonizing at family singalongs. Who will sing the high parts now? The friendly banter between the loyal Crusaders fans ( the majority of the family ) and the loyal but ever despairing Hurricanes fans ( Lizzie, Lynn and Erin ). The vibrant colours you wore which seemed to mirror your character so well, bright and ever cheerful, even in times of adversity. The bond you shared with our mum, especially through your shared interest in gardening. The love and laughter you brought to all our lives, but especially to Lynn's.
We will love and miss you forever Lizzie. We will grieve for a life cut short far too early, but we will also celebrate and remember a life well lived. You leave us so many happy memories Lizzie. We will laugh, we will cry but we will never forget. xxxx
Just wanted you to know our thoughts and prayers are with you and Lynn at this time. Know you are enjoying time together, building up more precious memories.
Lizzie you have been a big part of our family and have enriched our lives in so many ways. So many wonderful things to remember and cherish. Your wonderful sense of humour and ever present smile even as the illness took hold. Your beautiful harmonizing at family singalongs. Who will sing the high parts now? The friendly banter between the loyal Crusaders fans ( the majority of the family ) and the loyal but ever despairing Hurricanes fans ( Lizzie, Lynn and Erin ). The vibrant colours you wore which seemed to mirror your character so well, bright and ever cheerful, even in times of adversity. The bond you shared with our mum, especially through your shared interest in gardening. The love and laughter you brought to all our lives, but especially to Lynn's.
We will love and miss you forever Lizzie. We will grieve for a life cut short far too early, but we will also celebrate and remember a life well lived. You leave us so many happy memories Lizzie. We will laugh, we will cry but we will never forget. xxxx
Message from Aisling Dixon (midwife) now in Ireland
Dear Liz,
You truly are a wise women and I will always treasure your support in enabling me to find my midwifery soul. There are women in Ireland who have homebirth with me all because of the support I received with Domino's. They don't know that of course but as I think of you often as I wear my sheepskin slippers!!
For you I wish peace and comfort for your time left in this mortal world, no doubt you will handle it with the class and honour you've bestowed on all who have had the pleasure of knowing you. Thank you for knowing me.
Love to you and Lynn
Aisling xx
You truly are a wise women and I will always treasure your support in enabling me to find my midwifery soul. There are women in Ireland who have homebirth with me all because of the support I received with Domino's. They don't know that of course but as I think of you often as I wear my sheepskin slippers!!
For you I wish peace and comfort for your time left in this mortal world, no doubt you will handle it with the class and honour you've bestowed on all who have had the pleasure of knowing you. Thank you for knowing me.
Love to you and Lynn
Aisling xx
Message from Denize family
Hi Liz
We want to thank you so much for delivering our 3 beautiful children who are now 17(Coral), 14(Summer) and 12(Tasman).
Tasman is doing really well with no effects from his G6PD condition. Coral has just finished her last year at school and going to Canterbury Uni next year. Summer and Tasman are still at home on Correspondence School.
We love you and all our thoughts are with you and Lynn.
Eian, Mark, Coral, Summer and Tasman.
We want to thank you so much for delivering our 3 beautiful children who are now 17(Coral), 14(Summer) and 12(Tasman).
Tasman is doing really well with no effects from his G6PD condition. Coral has just finished her last year at school and going to Canterbury Uni next year. Summer and Tasman are still at home on Correspondence School.
We love you and all our thoughts are with you and Lynn.
Eian, Mark, Coral, Summer and Tasman.
Message from Darryl Nichols in Auckland
Dear Liz and Lynn,
It is with tears running down my face that I write this. Many before me have said, and with such eloquence, what I believe and feel. Liz I'm sure you will embrace the next journey of your spirit and soul. I would love to read your blogs about it, if that were only possible!
Lynn, I'm sure you will cherish the fantastic memories that you have of your times together. It is not often that we find our true soul partner.
Love, Darryl
It is with tears running down my face that I write this. Many before me have said, and with such eloquence, what I believe and feel. Liz I'm sure you will embrace the next journey of your spirit and soul. I would love to read your blogs about it, if that were only possible!
Lynn, I'm sure you will cherish the fantastic memories that you have of your times together. It is not often that we find our true soul partner.
Love, Darryl
Message from Bob and Kay in Nelson
Dear Liz & Lynn
You are both in our thoughts, we send our love and prayers to you. Liz hope you have been practising your singing as there is a "pozzie" for you with the Choir of Angels. Great photo of you both [posting today], was brilliant seeing you both in Kaikoura.
Special love to you both Bob & Kay xxoo
Message from Jane Pannu
Hi Liz & Lynn,
Thinking of you even though we haven't seen you recently. Liz it's hard to know what to say...I have a lot of happy memories of working with you...always so calm, caring & cheerful. You're are prob, the most 'giving' person I have had the pleasure of meeting & working with. Take care, stay strong. All for now.
Lots of love & stuff, Jane et al xxxx
Thinking of you even though we haven't seen you recently. Liz it's hard to know what to say...I have a lot of happy memories of working with you...always so calm, caring & cheerful. You're are prob, the most 'giving' person I have had the pleasure of meeting & working with. Take care, stay strong. All for now.
Lots of love & stuff, Jane et al xxxx
Message from Kim Johnson
Dear Liz
As I am writing this my mind goes back to my very first days at uni where I was drawn to you because of your relaxed manner and your attuide towards life. You have got so much to teach and I had so much to learn.
Four years on and now a midwife for the past year I realise that the teachings that you gave willingly are essential to my practicing as a kind caring and down to earth midwife. You gave the best advice (no crappy fuzzy unrealistic stuff ) that is not who I am and you understood this and I believe you nurtured this side of me.
If I become half the midwife that you are I will be very pleased. So I want to thank you as I sincerely believe that you contributed to midwifery degree.
My thoughts are always with you and Lynn so enjoy your view out your window. I am sure it has been a beautiful site these past few days
Lots of love
Kim Johnson xoxo
As I am writing this my mind goes back to my very first days at uni where I was drawn to you because of your relaxed manner and your attuide towards life. You have got so much to teach and I had so much to learn.
Four years on and now a midwife for the past year I realise that the teachings that you gave willingly are essential to my practicing as a kind caring and down to earth midwife. You gave the best advice (no crappy fuzzy unrealistic stuff ) that is not who I am and you understood this and I believe you nurtured this side of me.
If I become half the midwife that you are I will be very pleased. So I want to thank you as I sincerely believe that you contributed to midwifery degree.
My thoughts are always with you and Lynn so enjoy your view out your window. I am sure it has been a beautiful site these past few days
Lots of love
Kim Johnson xoxo
Message from Janet McGuinness, midwife and lactation consultant, Gisborne
Thinking of you Liz! You are such a strong woman & have come so far & had such a wonderful journey. You have touched more lives than you realise!
I am the midwife I am today because of you. Every time I hit a problem, I always think: "What would Liz do?" I can never say thank you enough.
I will keep you in my thoughts & Prayers always.
Big big hugs & love from
Janet
I am the midwife I am today because of you. Every time I hit a problem, I always think: "What would Liz do?" I can never say thank you enough.
I will keep you in my thoughts & Prayers always.
Big big hugs & love from
Janet
Message from Chris, Alexander and Vahid Siale in Nelson
Dearest Libby and Lynn
Thank you for the opportunity to spend some time with you both recently in your home. I have always loved your house and garden and have very fond memories of time there.
Thank you Libby for being such a special aunty every since my childhood. And kiaora for helping me with advice and hospitality for my two sons also.
I remember staying with you while I did my library studies in Karori...a safe haven for me in the big smoke. You introduced me to avocado and gouda cheese and I haven't looked back since. Thank you.
I cherish my time spent in your beautiful, special garden, Libby and Lynn...
Lots of hugs and love
Chris, Alexander and Vahid xxx
Thank you for the opportunity to spend some time with you both recently in your home. I have always loved your house and garden and have very fond memories of time there.
Thank you Libby for being such a special aunty every since my childhood. And kiaora for helping me with advice and hospitality for my two sons also.
I remember staying with you while I did my library studies in Karori...a safe haven for me in the big smoke. You introduced me to avocado and gouda cheese and I haven't looked back since. Thank you.
I cherish my time spent in your beautiful, special garden, Libby and Lynn...
Lots of hugs and love
Chris, Alexander and Vahid xxx
Message from Amanda and Karen currently in Western Australia
...our midwife extraordinaire with Ruby ....thankyou Liz xxxx
Hi Liz,
I am writing this from Bunbury in Western Australia where Karen is locuming at the hospital here for 2 weeks. Pods of dolphins in the harbour, gorgeous azure sea, insane amounts of flies and dishwater coffee :) Maybe you and Lynn passed through here on your travels?
You have been on my mind lately and I have been wondering how you are doing, though your blog has kept me up to date. I was sorry not be in town for your gardening bee.
When I think about first meeting you Liz, my mind goes back to the days when we landed in Wellington from Darwin, still to find a flat and a midwife. I felt a little like Mary on a donkey with no room at the inn :)
Then you arrived like mana from heaven with your twinkley sense of humour, a complete package of experience, wisdom combined with your reassuring down to earth manner and I thought, well hell, even if I
give birth on an airbed, I'll be sorted!
I looked forward to your visits and felt sad when they ended. How mind boggling to think of all the women like me you have touched in your long career. An amazing legacy. I'm sure every woman you have taken care of has the same fond feeling towards you. You will always have such a special place in my heart as the midwife of my (first?) baby. Also your skills at negotiating my obstetrician partner were something to behold :)
I remember you had such a lovely way with Ruby - she was so calm in your hands, which also calmed this frazzled mother observing. Ruby is 19 months now and is growing into a fantastic little girl. She delights us with her comic timing, sociability and interest in the world. There is never a dull day in our house since Ruby has been born. Karen and I joke to each other that she has a PHD in cuteness. Probably every parent feels the way we do but I try not to take it for granted.
Anyway I have attached a couple of recent-ish photos of our girl. Except for the one by the lighthouse, the photos of are from our Italian trip June/July.
Holding you in the light dear Liz as I know are so many others.
Arohanui
Amanda Berkahn xxx
and a message from Karen
Dear Liz,
Sending lots of love to you and Lynn. I feel lucky to be one of the people whose lives you've touched in a wonderful way.
More photos of Ruby below:
I am writing this from Bunbury in Western Australia where Karen is locuming at the hospital here for 2 weeks. Pods of dolphins in the harbour, gorgeous azure sea, insane amounts of flies and dishwater coffee :) Maybe you and Lynn passed through here on your travels?
You have been on my mind lately and I have been wondering how you are doing, though your blog has kept me up to date. I was sorry not be in town for your gardening bee.
When I think about first meeting you Liz, my mind goes back to the days when we landed in Wellington from Darwin, still to find a flat and a midwife. I felt a little like Mary on a donkey with no room at the inn :)
Then you arrived like mana from heaven with your twinkley sense of humour, a complete package of experience, wisdom combined with your reassuring down to earth manner and I thought, well hell, even if I
give birth on an airbed, I'll be sorted!
I looked forward to your visits and felt sad when they ended. How mind boggling to think of all the women like me you have touched in your long career. An amazing legacy. I'm sure every woman you have taken care of has the same fond feeling towards you. You will always have such a special place in my heart as the midwife of my (first?) baby. Also your skills at negotiating my obstetrician partner were something to behold :)
I remember you had such a lovely way with Ruby - she was so calm in your hands, which also calmed this frazzled mother observing. Ruby is 19 months now and is growing into a fantastic little girl. She delights us with her comic timing, sociability and interest in the world. There is never a dull day in our house since Ruby has been born. Karen and I joke to each other that she has a PHD in cuteness. Probably every parent feels the way we do but I try not to take it for granted.
Anyway I have attached a couple of recent-ish photos of our girl. Except for the one by the lighthouse, the photos of are from our Italian trip June/July.
Holding you in the light dear Liz as I know are so many others.
Arohanui
Amanda Berkahn xxx
and a message from Karen
Dear Liz,
Sending lots of love to you and Lynn. I feel lucky to be one of the people whose lives you've touched in a wonderful way.
More photos of Ruby below:
Message from Julie Haggie and Judy...
Liz and Lynn,
You are in our prayers and thoughts. It is coming up for eight years since you helped deliver our dear Ellen. She was on loan to us, a blessing, the joy is worth the grief. And blessed also to have laughed and shared stories, and a glass of wine with you and the lovely Lynn. Jeepers creepers, your clear heart, your warm and infectious smile. We send you love.
Julie and Judy
You are in our prayers and thoughts. It is coming up for eight years since you helped deliver our dear Ellen. She was on loan to us, a blessing, the joy is worth the grief. And blessed also to have laughed and shared stories, and a glass of wine with you and the lovely Lynn. Jeepers creepers, your clear heart, your warm and infectious smile. We send you love.
Julie and Judy
Message from Patric Lane and Sarah Radke in North Carolina
Hi Liz and Lynn -- Patric Lane (Robin's son) here.
Just wanted to let you know that Sarah and I are sending you both good vibes from over here in North Carolina.
We've just celebrated Thanksgiving, which reminded me of the various Christmases spent with y'all at Dad and Jeanette's place -- always enjoy catching up with you both at the extended family gatherings. Apologies for being no-shows for the past several years ... it's a bit of a commute from the east coast of the US :)
All the best and kia kaha.
Regards, Patric Lane and Sarah Radke
Just wanted to let you know that Sarah and I are sending you both good vibes from over here in North Carolina.
We've just celebrated Thanksgiving, which reminded me of the various Christmases spent with y'all at Dad and Jeanette's place -- always enjoy catching up with you both at the extended family gatherings. Apologies for being no-shows for the past several years ... it's a bit of a commute from the east coast of the US :)
All the best and kia kaha.
Regards, Patric Lane and Sarah Radke
Message from Karen Cargill and family in Nelson
Liz with Kristen Cargill
My heartfelt thoughts are with you both at this time.
My memory of you is delivering your God-daughter Kristen and the truly wonderful support that you provided me at that time.
Both myself, Brian and the girls remember the occasional visit from you both and have enjoyed the yearly Christmas letters.
I still think fondly of our visit with you both in Wellington many years ago now.
Kristen has grown into a lovely young Adult. Has just returned from Otago following her first year at University studying Tourism and French.
Love and strength to you both.
Karen xx
Message from Sarah Donovan & Rosa in Wellington
Dear Liz and Lynn, thank you for the very precious time we were able to spend with you last week. It meant so much to both of us, and Rosa took the fossil book to school for her 'news' to share with the class. You are both so much in our thoughts right now as you walk this journey together
Liz I will keep my learning from you in my heart forever.
Lots of love
xxxxxxx
Liz I will keep my learning from you in my heart forever.
Lots of love
xxxxxxx
Message from Trish Burke, student midwife in Wellington
Liz
Im thinking about you every day and sending lots of positive thoughts your way. I was so lucky to have you as my first placement as a student midwife.
You are inspirational and beautiful inside and out xxxxx
Im thinking about you every day and sending lots of positive thoughts your way. I was so lucky to have you as my first placement as a student midwife.
You are inspirational and beautiful inside and out xxxxx
Message from Ann Noseworthy, midwife in Wellington (moving back to Canada)
Liz, I have known you for some time almost from the time I came here to New Zealand in 1993. I want to acknowledge you for your gentle patience and your inspiration to myself, to students and women over the years. For your stance on up holding the sanctity of childbirth and your unwavering faith in the process of life and learning. I especially want to thank you for inviting me to join the Domino Midwives as it gave me the opportunity to become the midwife I wanted to be. I wish you peace for the rest of your journey and I want to let you know that part of you will be in Canada. Ann Noseworthy
Message from Tracey Bonnington in Wellington
Hi Liz
Long time no see.
I first met you 17 years ago at Meghan's 72hr long homebirth. You introduced me to the miracle that is rightly ours as women, but it seems so few get to experience.
Then you led me through my own and I have given thanks for the gift of you at that time in my life often over the years. You also introduced me to the magic of Homeopathy. 13 years ago I graduated as a Homeopath and one of my greatest joys of practice has been to attend births and bring these two miracles together. I am eternally grateful Liz for your love and wisdom but mostly for your trust in what simply can be.
Thankyou for all that you have done.
My thoughts are with you, Lynn and your family.
Love Tracey Bonnington
Long time no see.
I first met you 17 years ago at Meghan's 72hr long homebirth. You introduced me to the miracle that is rightly ours as women, but it seems so few get to experience.
Then you led me through my own and I have given thanks for the gift of you at that time in my life often over the years. You also introduced me to the magic of Homeopathy. 13 years ago I graduated as a Homeopath and one of my greatest joys of practice has been to attend births and bring these two miracles together. I am eternally grateful Liz for your love and wisdom but mostly for your trust in what simply can be.
Thankyou for all that you have done.
My thoughts are with you, Lynn and your family.
Love Tracey Bonnington
Message from Shelley Fissenden in Kaikoura (Lynn's sister)
Lynn and Liz with Lynn's sisters Karen (left) and Erin (right)
Lizzy,
Your courage and strength through your illness has amazed me and been an inspiration to us all.
I know you will continue this journey with more courage and your usual humour and wit.
Glad you are painfree and able to cherish each moment with your many rellies and friends. Our lives have been the better for your presence and we love you heaps.
xxoo Shell and all
Message from Ky, Anth, Ayrton and Remy xxxx in Melbourne, Australia
Bring a Smile
Hey Lizzie,
I just wanted you to know that we are counting our lucky stars to have had the opportunity to have shared sometime with you along the way – we’ll remember lots of things about you from this time spent, but most of all, it will be the smile you brought – on your beautiful face everywhere you went, the smiles you prompted in us and others, and best of all the smile you’ve put on my Aunty’s face in being a loving partner. I’ve enjoyed your humour, your generosity and your freely given guidance on the many stages of growing and raising babies. Your lovely way about you has given us a lot of memories to treasure.
Talk about show us all what ‘Kia Kaha’ means, lady!
You’re in our thoughts daily, love you much.
Ky, Anth, Ayrton and Remy xxxx
Hey Lizzie,
I just wanted you to know that we are counting our lucky stars to have had the opportunity to have shared sometime with you along the way – we’ll remember lots of things about you from this time spent, but most of all, it will be the smile you brought – on your beautiful face everywhere you went, the smiles you prompted in us and others, and best of all the smile you’ve put on my Aunty’s face in being a loving partner. I’ve enjoyed your humour, your generosity and your freely given guidance on the many stages of growing and raising babies. Your lovely way about you has given us a lot of memories to treasure.
Talk about show us all what ‘Kia Kaha’ means, lady!
You’re in our thoughts daily, love you much.
Ky, Anth, Ayrton and Remy xxxx
Message from Pauline Moran, student midwife in Wellington
Hi Liz
I have been thinking about the last time I bumped into you which was early last year in the halls of a very new delivery suite at the hospital. I remember that when you asked me how things were going I grumbled because the events of the day had not been ideal. "Ah, but it's all experience!" you said, eyes twinkling. Wise woman, that was exactly what I needed to hear. I am so glad this chance meeting happened so early in the year and in my training and I have carried it with me, like a warm stone in my pocket, through all the joys and challenges that have come since.
I am grateful to you for infusing your experience into mine and into those of so many other midwives. Thank you for your insight, generosity and enthusiasm.
with love
Pauline
I have been thinking about the last time I bumped into you which was early last year in the halls of a very new delivery suite at the hospital. I remember that when you asked me how things were going I grumbled because the events of the day had not been ideal. "Ah, but it's all experience!" you said, eyes twinkling. Wise woman, that was exactly what I needed to hear. I am so glad this chance meeting happened so early in the year and in my training and I have carried it with me, like a warm stone in my pocket, through all the joys and challenges that have come since.
I am grateful to you for infusing your experience into mine and into those of so many other midwives. Thank you for your insight, generosity and enthusiasm.
with love
Pauline
Message from Kass Ozturk, midwife in Wellington
Liz & Kass
I have recently completed my Master of Midwifery thesis, entitled: Becoming a homebirther…smooth sailing or rocky road? An exploration of Pakeha women’s experiences on the path to homebirth. My thesis is dedicated to Liz. That dedication follows below:
Dedication
I would like to dedicate this thesis to Liz Brunton. Liz has been a constant source of inspiration to me since I first met her 17 years ago. She was my midwife, my impetus to become a midwife, my mentor and my friend. I became a homebirther and consequently a midwife thanks to her, and therefore she brought this thesis into being from our first meeting.
Arohanui Liz.
Dedication
I would like to dedicate this thesis to Liz Brunton. Liz has been a constant source of inspiration to me since I first met her 17 years ago. She was my midwife, my impetus to become a midwife, my mentor and my friend. I became a homebirther and consequently a midwife thanks to her, and therefore she brought this thesis into being from our first meeting.
Arohanui Liz.
Message from Alison Grant, student midwife, Lower Hutt
Liz, I've had so much less time to know you than most people here but I wanted to say something to thank you for your influence.
In the first week of our course last year - maybe even the first day - I remember you telling us that so much of the work of a midwife is about preparing to say goodbye to the women we work with. I paraphrase, but you talked about the importance of building women's confidence in themselves in preparation for the end of the relationship, so that when the midwife leaves, she leaves a woman who believes in her ability to mother.
I have taken that advice with me through the last 20 months, and I think on it constantly.
It is obvious to me from the tributes here that you took that amazing attitude through all your life, building the confidence of all those around you as you did your clients and your students. It is also obvious to me that as you built up confidence in others, you also gained an immense amount of love and respect, and I hope the warmth of that love is providing a lot of comfort for you now.
I feel so fortunate to have had you as a teacher for that short time, and I hope will make good use of the wisdom you shared with us.
You're an amazing woman.
Alison Grant, student midwife.
In the first week of our course last year - maybe even the first day - I remember you telling us that so much of the work of a midwife is about preparing to say goodbye to the women we work with. I paraphrase, but you talked about the importance of building women's confidence in themselves in preparation for the end of the relationship, so that when the midwife leaves, she leaves a woman who believes in her ability to mother.
I have taken that advice with me through the last 20 months, and I think on it constantly.
It is obvious to me from the tributes here that you took that amazing attitude through all your life, building the confidence of all those around you as you did your clients and your students. It is also obvious to me that as you built up confidence in others, you also gained an immense amount of love and respect, and I hope the warmth of that love is providing a lot of comfort for you now.
I feel so fortunate to have had you as a teacher for that short time, and I hope will make good use of the wisdom you shared with us.
You're an amazing woman.
Alison Grant, student midwife.
Message from Beki Williams, midwifery student in Wellington
To dearest Liz,
i must admit that a few tears fell as i read this latest update to your blog. I hope to realise the impact you made on me in the short few months i was under your wonderful guidence and support. I still remember your kind words and i will cherish them forever. I want to thank you for just being there and listening to me when i came to see you, im so glad that Jaeda-Marlie got to meet you and you her. I just want to send my love, thoughts and wishes i hope that you, lynn and both of your whanau enjoy your time together. I would come but i feel that this is important whanau time so you will be in my thoughts
much love to you Liz
Beki xox
i must admit that a few tears fell as i read this latest update to your blog. I hope to realise the impact you made on me in the short few months i was under your wonderful guidence and support. I still remember your kind words and i will cherish them forever. I want to thank you for just being there and listening to me when i came to see you, im so glad that Jaeda-Marlie got to meet you and you her. I just want to send my love, thoughts and wishes i hope that you, lynn and both of your whanau enjoy your time together. I would come but i feel that this is important whanau time so you will be in my thoughts
much love to you Liz
Beki xox
Message from Linda Elvines, student midwife, Wellington
Liz, your life has touched many many people and left a whisper of your soul to each and everyone. A blessing and light your soul has been to this world... blessings as you return to the source of your soul and the universe - you have lived well and your calm and loving presence,and your immence contribution to many echoes in the hearts and lives of all who have known you. You are immortal and your soul is beautiful. Lynn, you are a rock and a comfort to our Liz, you have both been blessed to have each other and I send you love and light and strength for the journey you travel.
Peace and Blessings
Linda
Peace and Blessings
Linda
Message from Jeanie Douche, Wellington
Dear Liz,
You are the beacon that has guided us with your boundless wisdom, your blissful spirit, your abundant joyfulness and love.
My love and thoughts are with you and Lynn.
Jeanie.
You are the beacon that has guided us with your boundless wisdom, your blissful spirit, your abundant joyfulness and love.
My love and thoughts are with you and Lynn.
Jeanie.
Message from Michelle Black, student midwife in Wellington
Liz, I feel very blessed to have had your influence in my personal development as a student midwife.
Your little tips that you had mentioned in lectures such as - "There are 3 importances: Hands for loving touch, Heart for love and Head for knowledge" are all pinned up above my study desk and are all valuable tools in my midwifery tool box.
You are an inspiration to so many people and you have made such a valuable impact to the world of midwifery.
May your final days be pain free and peaceful, surrounded by those who love and care for you, until we meet again x x x
Your little tips that you had mentioned in lectures such as - "There are 3 importances: Hands for loving touch, Heart for love and Head for knowledge" are all pinned up above my study desk and are all valuable tools in my midwifery tool box.
You are an inspiration to so many people and you have made such a valuable impact to the world of midwifery.
May your final days be pain free and peaceful, surrounded by those who love and care for you, until we meet again x x x
Message from Penny Wyatt in Wellington
Dear Liz
I have not had the pleasure of a close a relationship with you as the many people who have posted here have. But those occasions where the circles of our lives have co-incided have been so warm, and I know I've missed a gem.
Even before we met, I was grateful for your presence - you carved a gentle riverbed of acceptance through the hearts of everyone around you, so when I arrived here 6 years ago unsure of how a lesbian midwife would be received, I eased into your slipstream making barely a ripple. Quite different from my experiences up till then.
You are an incredible woman, an inspiration to all. Your wisdom and gentleness, your humour and your joy vibrate through the words of all the well wishes written here. I send you and Lynn my love and respect
xxx
Penny
I have not had the pleasure of a close a relationship with you as the many people who have posted here have. But those occasions where the circles of our lives have co-incided have been so warm, and I know I've missed a gem.
Even before we met, I was grateful for your presence - you carved a gentle riverbed of acceptance through the hearts of everyone around you, so when I arrived here 6 years ago unsure of how a lesbian midwife would be received, I eased into your slipstream making barely a ripple. Quite different from my experiences up till then.
You are an incredible woman, an inspiration to all. Your wisdom and gentleness, your humour and your joy vibrate through the words of all the well wishes written here. I send you and Lynn my love and respect
xxx
Penny
Message from Jaime Walsh, midwifery student, Wellington
Dear Liz
I want to take this opportunity to thank you from the bottom of my heart for all your wisdom and wise words that you showed and spoke to me. When i started the midwifery course last year and heard you speak of how midwifery is holistic, i was inspired and excited to be learning from you. You taught me so much in that time and i will forever be grateful to you and the time and effort you put in to all your students.
It saddens me to think that your life will be cut short by this illness but, at the same time, it makes me smile seeing the pictures and reading the stories of you and Lynn doing fun things together.
I hope that Lynn, your family and friends all take comfort in the popular and amazing woman you are who brought so many lives into this world.
Thankyou for all your guidance, support and teaching you provided me and other students. You will be on my mind and many others, the day we graduate.
Much love you.
See you when we get there.
Love Jaime xoxo
I want to take this opportunity to thank you from the bottom of my heart for all your wisdom and wise words that you showed and spoke to me. When i started the midwifery course last year and heard you speak of how midwifery is holistic, i was inspired and excited to be learning from you. You taught me so much in that time and i will forever be grateful to you and the time and effort you put in to all your students.
It saddens me to think that your life will be cut short by this illness but, at the same time, it makes me smile seeing the pictures and reading the stories of you and Lynn doing fun things together.
I hope that Lynn, your family and friends all take comfort in the popular and amazing woman you are who brought so many lives into this world.
Thankyou for all your guidance, support and teaching you provided me and other students. You will be on my mind and many others, the day we graduate.
Much love you.
See you when we get there.
Love Jaime xoxo
Message from Kerri Smith, student midwife, Wellington
You crossed my path just recently, but I honour you for the contribution you've made in my life and the lives of so many midwifery students over the years.
When I recognized you from the Orgasmic Birth video, I told my friends in Canada that I was excited to be learning from such a wise celebrity in the worldwide birth community!
Your belief in the processes of normal birth and mothering are a legacy. I cherish the comments you left in my (usually much-hated) reflective journal about the importance of keeping a balance in work and family, taking care of myself, and setting boundaries. All things I find very hard to do!
May your days be painfree and peaceful, surrounded by those who love you. May your journey out of this life be as gentle and honoured as the way you guided so many precious babies into it.
Arohanui,
Kerri, student midwife
When I recognized you from the Orgasmic Birth video, I told my friends in Canada that I was excited to be learning from such a wise celebrity in the worldwide birth community!
Your belief in the processes of normal birth and mothering are a legacy. I cherish the comments you left in my (usually much-hated) reflective journal about the importance of keeping a balance in work and family, taking care of myself, and setting boundaries. All things I find very hard to do!
May your days be painfree and peaceful, surrounded by those who love you. May your journey out of this life be as gentle and honoured as the way you guided so many precious babies into it.
Arohanui,
Kerri, student midwife
Message from Jodi Calder (Pringle) in Wellington
Dear Liz and Lynn
I am thinking of you each day. Liz you are a truly amazing woman. You have been tutor, mentor, friend and midwife to me. Your trust and intuitive knowing of birth has allowed so many wonderful and empowering experiences for women and their families. Personally I feel so grateful that I was always a pregnant woman during my pregnancy and birth, not a student midwife/midwife.
Lots of love and support of you Lynn. Its difficult to find words, but know that my love and support is with you from the Kapiti Coast.
Arohanui
Jodi xxxxxx
I am thinking of you each day. Liz you are a truly amazing woman. You have been tutor, mentor, friend and midwife to me. Your trust and intuitive knowing of birth has allowed so many wonderful and empowering experiences for women and their families. Personally I feel so grateful that I was always a pregnant woman during my pregnancy and birth, not a student midwife/midwife.
Lots of love and support of you Lynn. Its difficult to find words, but know that my love and support is with you from the Kapiti Coast.
Arohanui
Jodi xxxxxx
Message from Charlotte Crichton in London, UK
Dear Liz and Lynn,
I'm writing to you from London, having just caught up again with your blog. I am so, so sad and sorry for both of you to hear that your health has deteriorated Liz. What an amazing ride you've had. And you certainly both covered some ground down South! As I said in an earlier email (sent to Lynn's address) which you may, or may not have received, I wake often each morning with thoughts of you both in my head. And of course each time I see a black cab, well I have wonderful images of you and your mates wheeling your youthful selves around Europe in one of those fabulous cars Liz! Each time I've logged on to follow your news, I felt amazed and encouraged that I would in deed (as you predicted a year ago) be seeing you again, when we return this January. I so much hope this will be the case, although it's hard to gauge these things huh? Anyway, I just want you both to know that I am sending you all my love and support and prayers. You are a wonderful couple, and while I have only come to meet you both fairly recently, I have come to recognise that there are some people who you don't need to know for a lifetime, to know that they are hugely loveable and truly something else. This is how I felt about you both at the end of our session recording Liz's life thus far. And of course, I feel a tremendous sadness and love for you both now.
Today is a crisp blue-skied wintry day. The remnants of autumn litter the ground with its leaves of fiery reds and golds. The buggy is often full with 'treasures' from nature from our walk to school and back. That beautiful little Willow you helped deliver is almost 2 now. Yep, time sure does fly.
Go well my friends. I hope you both have a peaceful Christmas. My love and thoughts and best wishes are with you at this time (as are Neil's).
See you soon,
Much, much warmth, love and hugs,
Charlotte xxx
I'm writing to you from London, having just caught up again with your blog. I am so, so sad and sorry for both of you to hear that your health has deteriorated Liz. What an amazing ride you've had. And you certainly both covered some ground down South! As I said in an earlier email (sent to Lynn's address) which you may, or may not have received, I wake often each morning with thoughts of you both in my head. And of course each time I see a black cab, well I have wonderful images of you and your mates wheeling your youthful selves around Europe in one of those fabulous cars Liz! Each time I've logged on to follow your news, I felt amazed and encouraged that I would in deed (as you predicted a year ago) be seeing you again, when we return this January. I so much hope this will be the case, although it's hard to gauge these things huh? Anyway, I just want you both to know that I am sending you all my love and support and prayers. You are a wonderful couple, and while I have only come to meet you both fairly recently, I have come to recognise that there are some people who you don't need to know for a lifetime, to know that they are hugely loveable and truly something else. This is how I felt about you both at the end of our session recording Liz's life thus far. And of course, I feel a tremendous sadness and love for you both now.
Today is a crisp blue-skied wintry day. The remnants of autumn litter the ground with its leaves of fiery reds and golds. The buggy is often full with 'treasures' from nature from our walk to school and back. That beautiful little Willow you helped deliver is almost 2 now. Yep, time sure does fly.
Go well my friends. I hope you both have a peaceful Christmas. My love and thoughts and best wishes are with you at this time (as are Neil's).
See you soon,
Much, much warmth, love and hugs,
Charlotte xxx
Love from Mandy Thompson in Suffolk, England, UK
Hello Liz
Lots of love from chilly England. I think about you a lot when I am out and about in the community midwifing for the women of Suffolk. You have been such an inspiration for so many women and midwives, including me.
Kia kaha, ehoa, lots of love,
Mandy Thompson.
Lots of love from chilly England. I think about you a lot when I am out and about in the community midwifing for the women of Suffolk. You have been such an inspiration for so many women and midwives, including me.
Kia kaha, ehoa, lots of love,
Mandy Thompson.
Message from Leanne Bowden, Wellington
Aroha to Liz and Lynn
I have sat to write this many times and never found the words that were truly worthy, however today I decided I just must do it (bit like my assignments, I hear you saying). It was a great honour to be your last student and I enjoyed every minute of our hours together, talking, laughing, learning and passing your mints. You are and will be missed but you will live on in every student you have taught, mother and baby whom you have helped birth. Gentle journeys.
Much aroha Leanne B xxx
I have sat to write this many times and never found the words that were truly worthy, however today I decided I just must do it (bit like my assignments, I hear you saying). It was a great honour to be your last student and I enjoyed every minute of our hours together, talking, laughing, learning and passing your mints. You are and will be missed but you will live on in every student you have taught, mother and baby whom you have helped birth. Gentle journeys.
Much aroha Leanne B xxx
Message from Kristine Ford in Wellington
Liz with 1 week old son, Billy, 8th July 2008
"Dear Liz,
My rescuer, my saviour! I have no bloody idea how I would have got through 2007-2008 without you. Really. Not many people would have done what you did Liz. You gave me support, when no one else was. Your wisdom, compassion and selfless guidance throughout that year was incredible. I think I was heading to a very dark place but because of you Liz, I managed to stay afloat. You went above and beyond the call of duty.
Liz you are a beautiful woman both inside and out. You are a precious gem with a real heart that is not so easily found. You somehow made the unbearable more bearable throughout that time and I am forever grateful for that. I only wish I could show you more gratitude.
You have such a talent and eye for art, words, communication, music and listening. Such patience and unrelenting support you gave us as students. Such humour and wisdom you brought to me as a mother. I’ll never forget the way you included Maali in every visit when you were my midwife and played her those beautiful songs on the piano. She still talks about you as the piano lady!
I have been away and am very sad that I missed your gardening day. Is there any more weeding that needs doing? I am free this Wednesday and would love to help if possible? Or next week, if you think of anything that needs doing? Please don’t hesitate to email or text and I’ll come.
I love you Liz and always will.
Xoxoxoxoxoxooxoxoxoxoxoxo
Kristine”
My rescuer, my saviour! I have no bloody idea how I would have got through 2007-2008 without you. Really. Not many people would have done what you did Liz. You gave me support, when no one else was. Your wisdom, compassion and selfless guidance throughout that year was incredible. I think I was heading to a very dark place but because of you Liz, I managed to stay afloat. You went above and beyond the call of duty.
Liz you are a beautiful woman both inside and out. You are a precious gem with a real heart that is not so easily found. You somehow made the unbearable more bearable throughout that time and I am forever grateful for that. I only wish I could show you more gratitude.
You have such a talent and eye for art, words, communication, music and listening. Such patience and unrelenting support you gave us as students. Such humour and wisdom you brought to me as a mother. I’ll never forget the way you included Maali in every visit when you were my midwife and played her those beautiful songs on the piano. She still talks about you as the piano lady!
I have been away and am very sad that I missed your gardening day. Is there any more weeding that needs doing? I am free this Wednesday and would love to help if possible? Or next week, if you think of anything that needs doing? Please don’t hesitate to email or text and I’ll come.
I love you Liz and always will.
Xoxoxoxoxoxooxoxoxoxoxoxo
Kristine”
Message from Bronwen Dickson in Wellington
Liz with baby Joe
Want to send buckets of love and have a heartfelt need to acknowledge your part in bringing my son Joe into the world in a calm, no-nonsense way. I felt completely safe; in your hands I had total faith in not only you, but in myself too.
There are many women in my life whose lives you have significantly touched by bringing your magic to their children's births.
Thank you for sharing your gift. xxx Bronwen
Message from Kate Allan, midwife in Wellington
Kate Allan & Liz at Graduation - May 2008
Dear Liz,
I am not very good at times like these, never know what to say, when to visit or what to do. Thank goodness for those who do and for setting up this wonderful site in celebration of you!
I wanted to thank you. You are an inspiration not just as a midwifery mentor but as a woman. I will never forget my first official birth as a midwife, you were right there by my side, sitting patiently, guiding with just the odd word or two, reassuring me that I was doing fine. I don't think I would've returned to midwifery if it wasn't for your initial trust in me during that first birth. You have helped lay my midwifery foundation and I cannot wait to build on it.
I am forever in debt to you for the knowledge you have gifted upon myself and so many of us. So Thank you for everything! My life could be so very different right now if you were never there to encourage me. With this, I send my love and strength to you, Lynn and family.
Much Love,
x Kate Allan
I am not very good at times like these, never know what to say, when to visit or what to do. Thank goodness for those who do and for setting up this wonderful site in celebration of you!
I wanted to thank you. You are an inspiration not just as a midwifery mentor but as a woman. I will never forget my first official birth as a midwife, you were right there by my side, sitting patiently, guiding with just the odd word or two, reassuring me that I was doing fine. I don't think I would've returned to midwifery if it wasn't for your initial trust in me during that first birth. You have helped lay my midwifery foundation and I cannot wait to build on it.
I am forever in debt to you for the knowledge you have gifted upon myself and so many of us. So Thank you for everything! My life could be so very different right now if you were never there to encourage me. With this, I send my love and strength to you, Lynn and family.
Much Love,
x Kate Allan
Message from Shona Old
Sho & Liz - ballooning 2010
Dearest Lizo
A quote from Kahil Gibran …. You know it well.
"Your friend is your needs answered”
You taught me so much about life, love, and matters of consequence. Thank you, my beautiful friend of 50 years, for your love and friendship, and to Barry and our sons also. Its cruel to watch the beastly cancer winning. I think of you all the time and try to send you strength, and Lynn too. We will miss you so much.
More from KG.
“When you part from your friend you grieve not;
for that which you love most in her may be clearer in her absence, as the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain. “
Love Sho x
A quote from Kahil Gibran …. You know it well.
"Your friend is your needs answered”
You taught me so much about life, love, and matters of consequence. Thank you, my beautiful friend of 50 years, for your love and friendship, and to Barry and our sons also. Its cruel to watch the beastly cancer winning. I think of you all the time and try to send you strength, and Lynn too. We will miss you so much.
More from KG.
“When you part from your friend you grieve not;
for that which you love most in her may be clearer in her absence, as the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain. “
Love Sho x
Message from Katharine Taylor and her family in Wellington
Ella and Ollie Taylor
Dear Liz and Lynn,
I was so pleased to be able to come and give you a hug on Sunday. I felt a true mixture of emotions leaving your house. I felt tearful and very sad knowing you are letting go Liz but also so inspired that you are so open and so present with what is happening to you both. Lynn, I am so glad to get to know you more and think the way you are together is such an inspiration to us all.
I feel so blessed to have had you in my life Liz. My journey into motherhood was supported by both you and Kass and what wonderful women to be there for me as I greeted my motherly intuition and instinct. I am still so thankful for that start to motherhood and thank you for your part in that. I feel so touched to have been around you at this time. So many wonderful lessons to be learned. I feel so deeply for your sorrow but want to celebrate both of your strength, honesty and lovingness at this time of true vunerability. Thank you and my love is being sent your way everyday.
Katharine Taylor
(mother of Ella, who was born at home on the dot of 36 weeks just a few hours after you Liz said, 'ok from now on homebirth will be ok'. Ella is pictured with her brother, Ollie, also born at home)
I was so pleased to be able to come and give you a hug on Sunday. I felt a true mixture of emotions leaving your house. I felt tearful and very sad knowing you are letting go Liz but also so inspired that you are so open and so present with what is happening to you both. Lynn, I am so glad to get to know you more and think the way you are together is such an inspiration to us all.
I feel so blessed to have had you in my life Liz. My journey into motherhood was supported by both you and Kass and what wonderful women to be there for me as I greeted my motherly intuition and instinct. I am still so thankful for that start to motherhood and thank you for your part in that. I feel so touched to have been around you at this time. So many wonderful lessons to be learned. I feel so deeply for your sorrow but want to celebrate both of your strength, honesty and lovingness at this time of true vunerability. Thank you and my love is being sent your way everyday.
Katharine Taylor
(mother of Ella, who was born at home on the dot of 36 weeks just a few hours after you Liz said, 'ok from now on homebirth will be ok'. Ella is pictured with her brother, Ollie, also born at home)
Message from Gwen O'Neill from Wellington
Liz
I just want to say that you were definitely one out of the box as a lecturer at university (meant in the nicest possible way).
I remember your advice, stories and guidance in suturing our sheeps' hearts and since then I have enjoyed our exchanges in humorous emails.
I do miss seeing you around.
Love, hugs and strength to you and Lynn.
Love from Gwen xx
I just want to say that you were definitely one out of the box as a lecturer at university (meant in the nicest possible way).
I remember your advice, stories and guidance in suturing our sheeps' hearts and since then I have enjoyed our exchanges in humorous emails.
I do miss seeing you around.
Love, hugs and strength to you and Lynn.
Love from Gwen xx
My Amazing Aunty - from Megan, Jon, Olive and Zac in Wanaka
Olive & Zac
It was wonderful to see you both recently and be able to welcome you into our home here in Wanaka.
As Mark said, you have always been the favourite (wild! ;-) ) aunty and I have always treasured any time spent with you. Your smiling face, my wide eyed admiration…
I remember coming to Wellington once, country bumpkin visits the big smoke, and walking, strike that, climbing up all those stairs to your house and finding you on a hot sunny day outside painting your house in shorts and a bra! And then you offered me a beer! (And you were probably smoking too!) I must have been a wise old age of 15? Sheltered upbringing (no disrespect to mum!). Wow was I impressed! Women can do anything!
Thank you for giving me the strength and confidence to not be at all phased (well not too much!) when Zac decided to arrive quickly at home, 3 hours from the planned hospital delivery room…Orgasmic Birth will be just one continuing testament to your strength, and belief, and aura.
I love that Olive and Zac got to meet you. I love that I carry your name. I love that your bucket list was short and you lived life to the full.
I am proud to be your niece.
Much love and hugs to you and Lynn.
Megan, Jon, Olive and Zac
As Mark said, you have always been the favourite (wild! ;-) ) aunty and I have always treasured any time spent with you. Your smiling face, my wide eyed admiration…
I remember coming to Wellington once, country bumpkin visits the big smoke, and walking, strike that, climbing up all those stairs to your house and finding you on a hot sunny day outside painting your house in shorts and a bra! And then you offered me a beer! (And you were probably smoking too!) I must have been a wise old age of 15? Sheltered upbringing (no disrespect to mum!). Wow was I impressed! Women can do anything!
Thank you for giving me the strength and confidence to not be at all phased (well not too much!) when Zac decided to arrive quickly at home, 3 hours from the planned hospital delivery room…Orgasmic Birth will be just one continuing testament to your strength, and belief, and aura.
I love that Olive and Zac got to meet you. I love that I carry your name. I love that your bucket list was short and you lived life to the full.
I am proud to be your niece.
Much love and hugs to you and Lynn.
Megan, Jon, Olive and Zac
To a very special and favourite aunty - from Mark, Michelle, Carl, Jake and Jesse Dingle in Hamilton
From left is Carl-21, Jake-12, Jesse-4, Michelle-40, mark-41
Libby, you have been there for mum and us for so many years now
It has come time to put some words together to express our gratitude and love to you.
Maybe it is because you are the youngest aunty ( no disrespect to other aunties) that we hold more of a bond between our family and you and Lynn.
It is true, that your inspiration and knowledge has helped us over the years in giving advice with our 3 babies from pregnancy to birth to ……………………well Carl is 21 years old now !
Mum and yourself (midwifes) had so much experience to offer us.
You and Lynn have been part of our lives for a long time, and it is great to come and stay with you two, especially over the last year.
Michelle, Jake, Jesse and I have enjoyed exploring more of Wellington with you, with every visit.
We really enjoy spending time and having lots of laughs together.
We hope you can come and see our new home, up here in Hamilton.
Lots of love, Mark, Michelle, Carl, Jake, Jesse Dingle
It has come time to put some words together to express our gratitude and love to you.
Maybe it is because you are the youngest aunty ( no disrespect to other aunties) that we hold more of a bond between our family and you and Lynn.
It is true, that your inspiration and knowledge has helped us over the years in giving advice with our 3 babies from pregnancy to birth to ……………………well Carl is 21 years old now !
Mum and yourself (midwifes) had so much experience to offer us.
You and Lynn have been part of our lives for a long time, and it is great to come and stay with you two, especially over the last year.
Michelle, Jake, Jesse and I have enjoyed exploring more of Wellington with you, with every visit.
We really enjoy spending time and having lots of laughs together.
We hope you can come and see our new home, up here in Hamilton.
Lots of love, Mark, Michelle, Carl, Jake, Jesse Dingle
Message from Debra Pascali-Bonaro from USA
Dear Liz,
I have been meaning to write you for so long as I hold you in my thoughts and prayers always. I have been traveling around the world with Orgasmic Birth, which is now shown in 42 countries and growing. Your gentle, wise presence touches me each time I hear your voice, see your face and watch as you support and guide Renee and Paddy as they birth Jack.
Although we only met for this brief time. You touched my life and have touched so many others in both your work as a midwife and in the intuitive, wise woman you are.
I am forever grateful to have met you and shared in this brief but powerful time together. You are touching and inspiring women and men around the world as they see what is possible in birth and how a midwife's presence guides and protects this sacred experience.
I have a wonderful short clip that was not in the film, but that I always treasure that I will try to send to Renee to share with you. It is too large to attach here, but will send to her on a web site that she may be able to download and bring.
Sending you love and light
Debra Pascali-Bonaro
15th November 2010
I have been meaning to write you for so long as I hold you in my thoughts and prayers always. I have been traveling around the world with Orgasmic Birth, which is now shown in 42 countries and growing. Your gentle, wise presence touches me each time I hear your voice, see your face and watch as you support and guide Renee and Paddy as they birth Jack.
Although we only met for this brief time. You touched my life and have touched so many others in both your work as a midwife and in the intuitive, wise woman you are.
I am forever grateful to have met you and shared in this brief but powerful time together. You are touching and inspiring women and men around the world as they see what is possible in birth and how a midwife's presence guides and protects this sacred experience.
I have a wonderful short clip that was not in the film, but that I always treasure that I will try to send to Renee to share with you. It is too large to attach here, but will send to her on a web site that she may be able to download and bring.
Sending you love and light
Debra Pascali-Bonaro
15th November 2010
From Anna Priestley and her family in Wellington
Left is Louis, 3, and right is Arlo, 5
We remember you forever.....
Hi Liz
We are so sorry to hear of your deteriorating health.
For so long you have tirelessly looked after others and Sarah and I often talk of your incredible support during the pregnancy, birth and after birth care of Arlo and then Louis.
We feel so privileged to have 'walked the journey' of pregnancy with you Liz and we remember in particular your incredible patience and support around the breast feeding struggles that we had. I know that your perseverance made such a difference for me.
Sarah also remembers your amazing support which included your incredible knowledge, combined with such a caring and generous way of being! Even when 'medical intervention' became inevitable, you stayed with us both and supported us along the way. We looked forward to your visits Liz, including your many stories and laughs!
Take care
Arohanui
Anna and Sarah
Hi Liz
We are so sorry to hear of your deteriorating health.
For so long you have tirelessly looked after others and Sarah and I often talk of your incredible support during the pregnancy, birth and after birth care of Arlo and then Louis.
We feel so privileged to have 'walked the journey' of pregnancy with you Liz and we remember in particular your incredible patience and support around the breast feeding struggles that we had. I know that your perseverance made such a difference for me.
Sarah also remembers your amazing support which included your incredible knowledge, combined with such a caring and generous way of being! Even when 'medical intervention' became inevitable, you stayed with us both and supported us along the way. We looked forward to your visits Liz, including your many stories and laughs!
Take care
Arohanui
Anna and Sarah
From Margot Shepherd and her family in Wellington
Hi Liz, so glad to hear that you are enjoying some quality time and getting away to glorious places like Kaikoura. Our love and thoughts are with you and Lynn.
Your courage, determination and positive attitude through this journey is such an inspiration to us all and not a week goes by without me looking at my beautiful children and appreciating what we truely have. We are immensely grateful to you for assisting us in bringing them into our world.
Thank you for touching our lives, all our love, Margot, Phil, Stanley, Meg, Sarah and Phoebe.
Your courage, determination and positive attitude through this journey is such an inspiration to us all and not a week goes by without me looking at my beautiful children and appreciating what we truely have. We are immensely grateful to you for assisting us in bringing them into our world.
Thank you for touching our lives, all our love, Margot, Phil, Stanley, Meg, Sarah and Phoebe.
From Meghan Lambert and her family, formerly in Wellington, now in Golden Bay
Hi Liz, long time no see.....I'm so sorry to hear you have cancer....it saddens me deeply that the best people get cancer...i just lost a friend last year who was just such a beautiful person....to cancer...she left behind a 3 year old and a 5 month old baby...nsage is 16 yrs now she is doing well, got junior dux at high school, is a fitness freak has part time jobs and is very gorgeous looking...tasman is 13 yrs old and very bright too, never stops talking and is a very hardcase....ziyah is 7 yrs (you never met him but you did a check on me whilst i was pregnant and in the north island...maggie matthews helped birth him..he is very eccentric and good looking like the others and is a hardcase!!! i am pregnant now and have 6 weeks to go...its a little girl so yay i've evened up 2 of each....I'm planning a home water lotus birth like all the others....I"ve improved since the days of my 72 hours of labour with sage!!! ziyah was only 6 hrs and he was 10lb 4oz...I"!
d just like to say a very big thank you to the care that you (and Maggie) gave me whilst i was pregnant and afterwards....i knew it was amazing at the time but just presumed that every woman received this....with my pregnancy now (i live in takaka) i get what ever midwife is on for my visits (i have been staunch with sticking with one) and she cant guarantee she will be at my birth..its not continued care its whoever is on duty on the day.. i have to go to the hospital for checks and they have no birthing pool for water births....if another woman goes into labour that is in hospital the same time as me i have to go into hospital cos the midwife wont be able to come to my home!!!! Even though maggie is not practising anymore she is going to come over the hill for me and fingers crossed i get the same midwife whom i like..alot of things go wrong here with the births and women chose to go to nelson...i can see why...how can you turn up to a birth when you dont have a relationship or know the history of the family etc....even though its my fourth baby and i know i can do it at home its given me slight anxiety and fear surrounding the birth process.....so yet again a big thank you for your amazing care and i wish you all the best for your journey at the moment...kia kaha and jah bless xxx meghan and whanau....xxxx
d just like to say a very big thank you to the care that you (and Maggie) gave me whilst i was pregnant and afterwards....i knew it was amazing at the time but just presumed that every woman received this....with my pregnancy now (i live in takaka) i get what ever midwife is on for my visits (i have been staunch with sticking with one) and she cant guarantee she will be at my birth..its not continued care its whoever is on duty on the day.. i have to go to the hospital for checks and they have no birthing pool for water births....if another woman goes into labour that is in hospital the same time as me i have to go into hospital cos the midwife wont be able to come to my home!!!! Even though maggie is not practising anymore she is going to come over the hill for me and fingers crossed i get the same midwife whom i like..alot of things go wrong here with the births and women chose to go to nelson...i can see why...how can you turn up to a birth when you dont have a relationship or know the history of the family etc....even though its my fourth baby and i know i can do it at home its given me slight anxiety and fear surrounding the birth process.....so yet again a big thank you for your amazing care and i wish you all the best for your journey at the moment...kia kaha and jah bless xxx meghan and whanau....xxxx
To Aunty Liz ; From Tarneeka xx
Ello Aunty Lizzy darling =) Neekah here!
WOW!!!
What an awesome website of you!!!
I am immensely impressed with all the work your friends have done-YOU'RE FAMOUS!!!
Just wanted to write a little something in tribute to you. You and Aunty Lynn are the only Harris aunties in the North Island (therefore the closest), so I had the luck and awesome opportunities to visit you frequently through my younger years.
Haha and from that we have created many funny, happy and mischevious memories that will always be kept in our hearts.
I absolutely LOVED visiting you both, as you would spoil me WAY TOO MUCH (have hundreds of yummy magnums stored away in the fridge, when you let me play with Petal, when you and Aunty Lynn would take me all over Wellington to many fun places, when you always proudly displayed every art piece that I gave you, which is seen THROUGH OUT THE HOUSE =D, etc etc etc), and you both always gave out a warm, loving and nourishing atmosphere. It was always heaps of fun when I was around you two-NEVER a dull moment!!! I greatly cherish that, and I let EVERYONE possible, know about you two and all the good times we spent together.
It is now quite hard knowing about your illness Aunty, as you always seemed to be one of the many few people whom I never thought would one day leave me, and all who love you dearly...
You don't deserve this, but then again, who does?
Life does confuse me at times, and tends to place strong, hard walls in our individual pathways of life. I believe it is just a small barrier, testing you to see if you've got what it takes. And obviously you have proven them wrong =D -keeping a positive attitude, fighting back with chemo, making the most of life, cherishing the loving, tender moments with your beloved wife, Aunty Lynn !!!
Words can definately not express all that I feel about you, Aunty. I am so proud of you, and always will be. You have become a deep and meaningful inspiration to me (and to many many more)!!! You have been one of my FAVOURITE AUNTIES OF ALL TIME!!! I have been blessed just to know you, and be a part of your amazing life.
I don't really want to stop, but I feel I must, before I babble on too much (which I highly believe I could). There are still so many things to say, but I shall leave it for now with a billion of huge kisses and cuddles!!!
Love you until the end of time Aunty =)
Arohanui,
Tarneeka Hinepounamu Gupwell
xxooxxooxxooxxooxxooxxoo
WOW!!!
What an awesome website of you!!!
I am immensely impressed with all the work your friends have done-YOU'RE FAMOUS!!!
Just wanted to write a little something in tribute to you. You and Aunty Lynn are the only Harris aunties in the North Island (therefore the closest), so I had the luck and awesome opportunities to visit you frequently through my younger years.
Haha and from that we have created many funny, happy and mischevious memories that will always be kept in our hearts.
I absolutely LOVED visiting you both, as you would spoil me WAY TOO MUCH (have hundreds of yummy magnums stored away in the fridge, when you let me play with Petal, when you and Aunty Lynn would take me all over Wellington to many fun places, when you always proudly displayed every art piece that I gave you, which is seen THROUGH OUT THE HOUSE =D, etc etc etc), and you both always gave out a warm, loving and nourishing atmosphere. It was always heaps of fun when I was around you two-NEVER a dull moment!!! I greatly cherish that, and I let EVERYONE possible, know about you two and all the good times we spent together.
It is now quite hard knowing about your illness Aunty, as you always seemed to be one of the many few people whom I never thought would one day leave me, and all who love you dearly...
You don't deserve this, but then again, who does?
Life does confuse me at times, and tends to place strong, hard walls in our individual pathways of life. I believe it is just a small barrier, testing you to see if you've got what it takes. And obviously you have proven them wrong =D -keeping a positive attitude, fighting back with chemo, making the most of life, cherishing the loving, tender moments with your beloved wife, Aunty Lynn !!!
Words can definately not express all that I feel about you, Aunty. I am so proud of you, and always will be. You have become a deep and meaningful inspiration to me (and to many many more)!!! You have been one of my FAVOURITE AUNTIES OF ALL TIME!!! I have been blessed just to know you, and be a part of your amazing life.
I don't really want to stop, but I feel I must, before I babble on too much (which I highly believe I could). There are still so many things to say, but I shall leave it for now with a billion of huge kisses and cuddles!!!
Love you until the end of time Aunty =)
Arohanui,
Tarneeka Hinepounamu Gupwell
xxooxxooxxooxxooxxooxxoo
From Robyn Maude, midwife in Wellington
I just love this photograph of Liz, Tanya and her baby son Beck, born at home in 2001. It speaks for itself and I am sure anyone looking at it, including Liz, will take their own meaning from this powerful image.
The photo was gifted to me to use in my master’s thesis as it epitomised one of the subcategories of the second theme which I named ‘getting into the water’. The subcategory titled ‘The Diligence’ explored the role of the midwife and how the combined philosophies of the woman and midwife play a critical part in defining how and where the care is provided. The following excerpt is from the thesis:
Diligence is defined as assiduousness, which means persistence, industriousness and tirelessness. Other descriptive words for diligence were meticulousness, conscientiousness, thoroughness, attentiveness, carefulness, watchfulness, alertness, consideration, courtesy and devotion. All these words communicated an understanding of the personal attributes and core competencies required by midwives to be with women.
A belief in the importance of supporting physiological birth provides the midwife with a sense of watchfulness, consideration, kindness and courtesy that encourages a partnership with women to support their childbirth choices. Research supports the notion that continuous support by a caregiver philosophically and physically in tune with the woman has a positive impact on the outcomes for women in childbirth. This empowering relationship enables women to maintain control of their birth. Using water for labour and birth is one way in which the midwife and woman achieve this (Hodnett, 1999).
From 1997 – 2002 it was my great pleasure to practice midwifery alongside Liz as part of Domino Midwives in Wellington. The words above describing diligence, in my mind, also describe Liz. I learnt and continue to learn so much from Liz Brunton. Love always,
Robyn Maude.
The photo was gifted to me to use in my master’s thesis as it epitomised one of the subcategories of the second theme which I named ‘getting into the water’. The subcategory titled ‘The Diligence’ explored the role of the midwife and how the combined philosophies of the woman and midwife play a critical part in defining how and where the care is provided. The following excerpt is from the thesis:
Diligence is defined as assiduousness, which means persistence, industriousness and tirelessness. Other descriptive words for diligence were meticulousness, conscientiousness, thoroughness, attentiveness, carefulness, watchfulness, alertness, consideration, courtesy and devotion. All these words communicated an understanding of the personal attributes and core competencies required by midwives to be with women.
A belief in the importance of supporting physiological birth provides the midwife with a sense of watchfulness, consideration, kindness and courtesy that encourages a partnership with women to support their childbirth choices. Research supports the notion that continuous support by a caregiver philosophically and physically in tune with the woman has a positive impact on the outcomes for women in childbirth. This empowering relationship enables women to maintain control of their birth. Using water for labour and birth is one way in which the midwife and woman achieve this (Hodnett, 1999).
From 1997 – 2002 it was my great pleasure to practice midwifery alongside Liz as part of Domino Midwives in Wellington. The words above describing diligence, in my mind, also describe Liz. I learnt and continue to learn so much from Liz Brunton. Love always,
Robyn Maude.
From Bridget Douglas and her family in Wellington
Liz, with your calm manner and gentle words you gave me the courage and confidence to have the natural births I so wanted for our two gorgeous girls, Georgia and Francesca. You guided Matthew and I through our first daunting weeks of parenthood with your down-to-earth advice and baby-whispering ways. You always left us feeling like we were on the right track with encouraging words like “Well done you two, aren’t you doing well!” I always looked forward to your post-natal visits and missed you when they inevitably came to an end. I feel so lucky to know you; you are such a wise woman. I am thinking of you and send you all our love.
From Marion Picken and family, Wellington
Liz,
You delivered my two beautiful daughters Sylvie and Lily.
My trust in you is absolute. You are a wise, intellegent woman - what luck to have met you. Your strength and optimism contributed to two great births.
Thankyou.
Best wishes and love Liz, we are thinking of you always.....
Marion, Sylvie, Lily ( happy chucker) and Lewis
You delivered my two beautiful daughters Sylvie and Lily.
My trust in you is absolute. You are a wise, intellegent woman - what luck to have met you. Your strength and optimism contributed to two great births.
Thankyou.
Best wishes and love Liz, we are thinking of you always.....
Marion, Sylvie, Lily ( happy chucker) and Lewis
From Renee Perkins and her son Jack, Wellington
This is what Jack wants to say: "Thank you, your very grateful, cos you helped be birth" - bless ;-]
And in his own typing: "fcghgcfhfgvgvcbngvv vcv vbbvvcv bhgjhbfjngjxh gjkm,.mnbbcmn,.nc vcvm,hbcjmjk,vghnjjg hn,kg gkhjd,`vzxcxb bvxdcv,mhgybhfxdfczcvhsdhcdxgv vmhhjkzhhbhshcsagfhjkjggh bejwkjgdkljgf hdkihyywsudgd mhhjdhdcfg vbgvshfgcddbsvdsbvdbhdvvbddcvbcddbvvbdncvc dvcfvdvbbvcbcbbcvvdvvvvvbdbhjgjjmj muiskaafride4y dgvefhbgdsgtvfghhee ytujcxhjftyjhntrgbhdghh bfderfgbhbgfrsxjhvxzfrdsfc chfchvgfgvgfghgvfgvbfdg vgdgvghedhgvcvgthdgfffvffcgfcdhg gfxcvcgdffddvcxfcvxxgfgv nmcndxbzxcvbhgtecdncfjdhfcf-pjkhl-kjljl- ijghmmjjjjjjjjj;juhggygtggfhghyhg-;fgvgtg hyhyggvgfvvv gfvvvvggbfbfyugkjhjkhkhhhhjjjkmkjuju"
From Renee : Liz, you wonderful, wise woman you! You reassured us, informed us, encouraged us, laughed with us and shared the most incredible moment of our lives with us, the birth of our son Jack! Now when you see this feisty 5yr old you match his energy with yours and laugh and play with him. While I observe with relish the miracle you helped bring into the world.
Your selflessness and commitment to a positive birth experience continues to amaze me. Now is your opportunity to give yourself some of the nurturing you so naturally provide for others. Rest, relax, heal, enjoy the good food. Love you xox
And in his own typing: "fcghgcfhfgvgvcbngvv vcv vbbvvcv bhgjhbfjngjxh gjkm,.mnbbcmn,.nc vcvm,hbcjmjk,vghnjjg hn,kg gkhjd,`vzxcxb bvxdcv,mhgybhfxdfczcvhsdhcdxgv vmhhjkzhhbhshcsagfhjkjggh bejwkjgdkljgf hdkihyywsudgd mhhjdhdcfg vbgvshfgcddbsvdsbvdbhdvvbddcvbcddbvvbdncvc dvcfvdvbbvcbcbbcvvdvvvvvbdbhjgjjmj muiskaafride4y dgvefhbgdsgtvfghhee ytujcxhjftyjhntrgbhdghh bfderfgbhbgfrsxjhvxzfrdsfc chfchvgfgvgfghgvfgvbfdg vgdgvghedhgvcvgthdgfffvffcgfcdhg gfxcvcgdffddvcxfcvxxgfgv nmcndxbzxcvbhgtecdncfjdhfcf-pjkhl-kjljl- ijghmmjjjjjjjjj;juhggygtggfhghyhg-;fgvgtg hyhyggvgfvvv gfvvvvggbfbfyugkjhjkhkhhhhjjjkmkjuju"
From Renee : Liz, you wonderful, wise woman you! You reassured us, informed us, encouraged us, laughed with us and shared the most incredible moment of our lives with us, the birth of our son Jack! Now when you see this feisty 5yr old you match his energy with yours and laugh and play with him. While I observe with relish the miracle you helped bring into the world.
Your selflessness and commitment to a positive birth experience continues to amaze me. Now is your opportunity to give yourself some of the nurturing you so naturally provide for others. Rest, relax, heal, enjoy the good food. Love you xox
From Andrea Sarty, mother of three in Wellington
Liz, whose calm, warm, reassuring voice told our Birth Wise class, with a smile, that it is a good thing to see "the golden nuggets" that showed the baby's head was pressing against the mother's bowel because it means that birth is near. I have never heard defecation described so beautifully!!
This warm and comfortable attitude has supported several of my friends through their pregnancies, their wonderful births and their early tender parenting.
Thank you.
Andrea Sarty
This warm and comfortable attitude has supported several of my friends through their pregnancies, their wonderful births and their early tender parenting.
Thank you.
Andrea Sarty
From Karen Gault and her family, Wellington, New Zealand
"Her gentle hands guided my first and second born children into this world. Her calm wisdom and experience allowed me to fully embrace their labours and birth at home. When it came to the end of her post natal visits I cried at losing her regular, reassuring professional advice, her humorous quips, her loving way with my girls and her friendship. And I cried even harder when I discovered that she would not be able to physically guide my currently growing baby into the world.. Liz has now to turn her generous time to healing and nurturing herself as she undergoes chemotherapy for inoperable pancreatic cancer".
Life is no brief candle “This is the true joy in life, to be used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one, to be thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap. To be a force of nature instead of a feverish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy. I am a member of a community and as a member it is my privilege to do for it whatever I can before I die. Life is no brief candle to me. It is a sort of splendid torch that I want to make burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations.”
- George Bernard Shaw
"Liz, my mighty one, you have filled my life with inspiration, hope, and joy. I am grateful that when you read these stories you will realise that your life has been a brightly burning, splendid torch." Karen
Life is no brief candle “This is the true joy in life, to be used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one, to be thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap. To be a force of nature instead of a feverish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy. I am a member of a community and as a member it is my privilege to do for it whatever I can before I die. Life is no brief candle to me. It is a sort of splendid torch that I want to make burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations.”
- George Bernard Shaw
"Liz, my mighty one, you have filled my life with inspiration, hope, and joy. I am grateful that when you read these stories you will realise that your life has been a brightly burning, splendid torch." Karen
From Vida Rye, Wellington
Liz with Zoe Rye - 1st November 2009 Civil Union
Liz you are an inspiration to me. You were one of the first of few midwives to truly "get" where I was coming from when I arrived in Wellington from the UK 8 years ago and for that I owe you so much. You understood that I shared your passion that birth should be a joyous experience and that we are meddling unnecessarily in the physiological process of pregnancy, labour and birth. You encouraged me in my work in the birthing circles here, where others were not always so supportive. Thank you!
Liz you are open, honest, wise and I have enjoyed so much working alongside you in our various ventures - in particular for the Orgasmic Birth film where you beautifully represent what is truly great about New Zealand midwifery. You have a wealth of knowledge and experience which you have willingly and selflessly shared with many, and you have worked so damned hard over the years, often (and now perhaps also obviously) to the detriment of your own self.
Throughout all your hard work you have of course been wonderfully supported by your loving partner, Lynn, who I have only more recently had the pleasure of getting to know a little bit. It was so special to be part of your Civil Union in November 2009.
I hope that you gain some encouragement and strength from this Living Tribute website for this new and unexpected chapter in your life because you have given so much strength to, and built up courage in, others over the years in their times of vulnerability.
Sending you much love through the ethers and knowing that others will join me in this honouring of you...... hugs... Vida x
Liz you are open, honest, wise and I have enjoyed so much working alongside you in our various ventures - in particular for the Orgasmic Birth film where you beautifully represent what is truly great about New Zealand midwifery. You have a wealth of knowledge and experience which you have willingly and selflessly shared with many, and you have worked so damned hard over the years, often (and now perhaps also obviously) to the detriment of your own self.
Throughout all your hard work you have of course been wonderfully supported by your loving partner, Lynn, who I have only more recently had the pleasure of getting to know a little bit. It was so special to be part of your Civil Union in November 2009.
I hope that you gain some encouragement and strength from this Living Tribute website for this new and unexpected chapter in your life because you have given so much strength to, and built up courage in, others over the years in their times of vulnerability.
Sending you much love through the ethers and knowing that others will join me in this honouring of you...... hugs... Vida x